Is it hard for women to accept a good looking guy; that he's not after sex?

[Guest66]

I know dating is a numbers game but i seem to get the strangest responses from women. i dont mean to brag but im a fairly good looking guy.

 

Certain times a woman may look my way, once or several times with a smile on them. I take an interest in them and before i get a chance to ask them out they wind up doing the busy routine thing and leaving me in the dust. I'm not standing there for hours talking boring their minds out, but this is within the first few minutes.

 

I know women are social creatures and they like attention but somehow i cant help but feel like im the victim. Even if i invite them to something as simple as coffee they wind up flaking on me one way or another. I think the biggest reason is they have the misconception that i'm just after sex. i'll admit sex is great, but im not after that. If i find a girl interesting enough that she's worth getting to know, i'll ask her out.

 

In the past I've had guys that automatically assumed i was a player, they didnt know me very well (or at all) and labeled me already.

[Guest]

I know dating is a numbers game but i seem to get the strangest responses from women. i dont mean to brag but im a fairly good looking guy.

 

Certain times a woman may look my way, once or several times with a smile on them. I take an interest in them and before i get a chance to ask them out they wind up doing the busy routine thing and leaving me in the dust. I'm not standing there for hours talking boring their minds out, but this is within the first few minutes.

 

I know women are social creatures and they like attention but somehow i cant help but feel like im the victim. Even if i invite them to something as simple as coffee they wind up flaking on me one way or another. I think the biggest reason is they have the misconception that i'm just after sex. i'll admit sex is great, but im not after that. If i find a girl interesting enough that she's worth getting to know, i'll ask her out.

 

In the past I've had guys that automatically assumed i was a player, they didnt know me very well (or at all) and labeled me already.

 

 

 

Did not think nice looking guys had trouble all so. And I know what you mean people does see you and but a labeled on you which is wrong in my book. I am not that nice looking but it is all so what is in side that counts.

 

I take an interest in them and before i get a chance to ask them out they wind up doing the busy routine thing and leaving me in the dust. I'm not standing there for hours talking boring their minds out, but this is within the first few minutes.

 

This is what happen to me and I think I was in the same boat.

 

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[amerikajin]

I know dating is a numbers game but i seem to get the strangest responses from women. i dont mean to brag but im a fairly good looking guy.

 

Certain times a woman may look my way, once or several times with a smile on them. I take an interest in them and before i get a chance to ask them out they wind up doing the busy routine thing and leaving me in the dust. I'm not standing there for hours talking boring their minds out, but this is within the first few minutes.

 

I know women are social creatures and they like attention but somehow i cant help but feel like im the victim. Even if i invite them to something as simple as coffee they wind up flaking on me one way or another. I think the biggest reason is they have the misconception that i'm just after sex. i'll admit sex is great, but im not after that. If i find a girl interesting enough that she's worth getting to know, i'll ask her out.

 

In the past I've had guys that automatically assumed i was a player, they didnt know me very well (or at all) and labeled me already.

 

Well I've got good news and bad news.

 

The good news is, you're not getting dropped because they think you're into sex. In fact, a lot of the women you've been trying to hit on are every bit as interested in sex as you are - maybe even more so.

 

The bad news is, you're still getting snubbed - for some other reason we cannot yet ascertain. We can only say, they're just not interested in you. Something in the way you carry yourself is sending off the wrong vibe. Not sure what it is, but what else do you think it could be? Do you feel too nervous around women? Or, is it possible that you're coming on too strong?

[KnowHowLoveFeels]

I know dating is a numbers game but i seem to get the strangest responses from women. i dont mean to brag but im a fairly good looking guy.

 

Let me assure you that your LOOKS are not the reason for the rejections you've received! In fact, my hunch is that your "good" looks are what got you the smile and the 2 minute of their attention.

 

If I would snub someone off, it'd be because the chemistry is not there. The guy is socially awkward, impolite, showing uncertainty, showing too much arrogance, etc.

[Trialbyfire]

Let me assure you that your LOOKS are not the reason for the rejections you've received! In fact, my hunch is that your "good" looks are what got you the smile and the 2 minute of their attention.

 

If I would snub someone off, it'd be because the chemistry is not there. The guy is socially awkward, impolite, showing uncertainty, showing too much arrogance, etc.

Exactly. Friendly, funny and confident. Hard to resist.

[IpAncA]

I can understand why your labeled. I would probably do the same thing, no offense. Even though it's wrong what they say.

 

Sounds like you have no trouble getting girls, you just can't keep them. Maybe your sending of the sex vibe or you just don't have chemistry with them.

 

Need some more info. Here. Whats happening after you ask them out?