mango2006 Posted December 2, 2006 Posted December 2, 2006 My ex broke up with me 6 months back. I really thought I'd have got over it much more then I have and even now I still really love him and want him back. I would do anything to be given another chance. We intended to remain close friends but I think my attempts to get him back at first made it harder for him to do that and communication was almost down to zero. I accepted that he'd removed or blocked me online. A few weeks ago he emailed me and I held off. This lead to more emails and him returning online. We met once and it was fine and he made the first move to message my phone after we accidently met when I was out with another male friend of mine. I get the impression there's a chance here but i'm not getting strong enough signals to know. Communication levels aren't OTT but it's a vast improvement of what it was initially. Neither of us are experienced with relationships. We're both in our late 20's but this was the first serious one for both of us. I believe we got to the point where we both needed some space to do other things as other areas of our lives weren't working out too well. Mine especially. I just don't know how to handle this now. Should I carry on as things are and hope something will develop by this contact? Do I lay the cards on the table and just admit how I feel? I know in many cases people getting back together doesn't work, but it's not always that way and I believe the reasons for us breaking weren't serve enough to never be mended. There was no cheating, lying, arguing etc. I've not stop living, infact this has been a great chance for me to build new friendships and develop as a person. I just know that part of me is missing. Please give some help on this. Thanks.
Guest Posted December 2, 2006 Posted December 2, 2006 Sometimes we just gotta go with the flow. Besides we all learn or MUST to not experience what we had or real. Especially if it happened, or about to. This is what is VIP. Just us or them? Anyway, good luck to ya all. And be happy, life is short. Or maybe I am about to leave it all here. Oh, and don't forget to laugh or chalk it up to; well whatever rings your bell, life or hereafter. Thinking of you, all, Peace.
BannaBee57 Posted December 2, 2006 Posted December 2, 2006 Do not "lay your cards on the table" so to speak. If you do that I'm afraid you will put pressure on him and he'll disappeare again. Just keep going the way you are until he gives you a sign that he might want more. Don't press him for any sort of promises. Just show him how much fun he can still have with you and go from there. Remember, there is a high probability that he really does just want a friendship with you. So, don't get your hopes too high or you'll wind up getting hurt again. Good luck!!
Ssheena Posted December 2, 2006 Posted December 2, 2006 If you find yourself looking for all sorts of signs and reading things into his actions/behaviors and spending a lot of time wondering what this means or that means or does he like me or not, I say, tell him, hey, this is really nice and it reminds me of how we were together. I would like to give it another chance, are you open to that? That way you will have your answer and in getting it you will either get back together - albeit slowly or you can possibly save yourself some further heartache and distance yourself from him again. If you can't handle being "just friends" (and I know I couldn't) then you have to protect yourself. My .02cents worth.
Author mango2006 Posted December 2, 2006 Author Posted December 2, 2006 I think I might try to press for a night out together in the next week. I guess if he says no, then I'll have my answer. If he says ok, then I'll have a chance to shine and hopefully make sure we have a good time. As much as i'd like to just go 'hey, look we both made some mistakes but I still care for you so much and would like us to take it slow and try again' I think i'll send him running or worse, get totally rejected. Why is it so hard? I had no idea that I'd still be facing all this after 6 months. I long for waking up with him back beside me, or waking up and no caring at all that he's not there. Whatever the outcome, I just hope it doesn't take much longer as I'm so fed up with being like this
bit11 Posted December 3, 2006 Posted December 3, 2006 Mango I would play hard to get a little bit longer. Your lucky you seem like there maybe light at the end of the tunnel. My seperation just started am i am just starting this not calling when i want to game.
Author mango2006 Posted December 4, 2006 Author Posted December 4, 2006 Sorry to hear that you are going through all this too Bit11 and at such a difficult time of year too. It would be great if there was one set way of getting your ex back, something you could say or do that would clinch the deal and put you back on track. I want to come across as confident, happy and secure, as it was really those areas that made him doubt me in the first place. I know i am all those things but i still carry around the pain of not having him in my life. I worry that time is ticking on and that he may have or will find someone else and that will be the final nail in the coffin.
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