I will try again, insight on this one appreciated.

[Guest]

Once again here it goes:

 

Met a woman this summer, thought she was attractive but think much about asking her out. It was about the 1st of this month when she started, (at least I thought) showing some interest in me. So, I finally mustered up enough to ask her out on a date, and she said yes.

 

So the afternoon of our first date came upon me. I called her to firm up plans and got her voicemail, left her a message, and waited.

3 hours later she called from work and said that she had to cover for someone who did not show up (she works at a nice hotel) At that moment, I was feeling like it was time to move on. But, in an instant, she said "Please don't think I am blowing you off, I want to know if you want to reschedule."

Then my feeling of rejection disappered and I was saying "game on!" (to myself, of course) So we rescheduled for after turkey break.

 

I called her over the turkey break weekend (I asked her if I could and she said yes) and it was a good conversation, we planned what night we were going to go out. All was good.

 

Then Monday came along and I got a text from her telling me she was in a head-on car crash!!!! I immediately called her and found out the details, she was amazingly okay, just a few cracked ribs but nothing serious. I then said "If you don't want to go out this week then I definately understand" considering the trauma she had just experienced I didn't want to pressure her.

 

I saw her in class the next morning and she looked okay, tired, but overall you really couldn't tell if she was in an accident or not. After class I bought her a hot chocolate and we talked for awhile about the accident and what she was going to do about it.

 

I again then said "If you are not physically feeling up to going out then really, it's alright." She then said "No, we need to have dinner tomorrow night." Then she said "call me tomorrow." I took her cue and said "okay I will talk to you tomorrow."

 

So tomorrow came and I got a message from her that basically said "Please don't hate me but all of the sudden I panicked about going out on a date, I just got over a serious relationship this summer and I'm not quite ready to date yet." So I called her and reassured her that I don't hate her whatsoever and that I understood. I then told her that I wanted to go out with her when she is ready, and that all I want to do is get to know her better. I made my intentions clear. So I left the ball in her court.

 

I know for a fact that the car accident happened, I mean, who would really use that as an excuse. Also, I feel sort of "broadsided" by the whole "panic" thing. I mean, I got the impression from her that she really wanted to go out with me, and I was feeling a good vibe from her. I know that she went through a bad experience this week and I would have understood completely if she did not want to go out. But to throw all that other stuff at me? I don't get it?

 

Ladies, do you think she is interested in me but is not quite ready to go out yet?

 

Or, Is she just being nice?

 

Again, I made my intentions clear when I told her all I want to do is get to know her better, it's not like I have a ring in my pocket!

 

I'm not going to hold my breath for her though.

 

I'm 27, she's 21, does age have anything to do with it?

 

How shoud I act around her from now on? Is there any chance for me?

 

Is it me??? I have the poorest of luck I guess. Please shed some insight!

 

I was disappointed but not devistated.

[InsanityImpaired]

It could be that she is telling the truth. And it could be that she is afraid to tell you "no", and comes up with excuses. However, if she considers herself not ready to date, there is not much you can do. You could wait - but till when?

 

I am sure we could analyse the situation more in depth, but it would not alter the basic loss-loss situation for you, at least for now.

 

Better to move on. And it does not seem that "you" are the issue. You seem to have handled things pretty well.

[Guest]

It could be that she is telling the truth. And it could be that she is afraid to tell you "no", and comes up with excuses. However, if she considers herself not ready to date, there is not much you can do. You could wait - but till when?

 

I am sure we could analyse the situation more in depth, but it would not alter the basic loss-loss situation for you, at least for now.

 

Better to move on. And it does not seem that "you" are the issue. You seem to have handled things pretty well.

 

Yeah I'm definately moving on, I am just getting into dating again and this was the first one I asked in awhile. On the flip side, it's her loss. But if our paths cross again then I will keep my options open.

[Spacecowboy79]

There, I just registered, now I am no longer a "guest"