vluna00 Posted December 1, 2006 Posted December 1, 2006 Ok so where do I begin? I have been married for over a year and half and lets say that I have a "Special" relationship with the In Laws. My husband and I met in the military and are from two complete different worlds. He is from Arkansas and I was from Miami. So when it came to trying to find a place to settle he was really set on settling near his family because that is all he has known. I figured maybe that would be best because little country boy from a town less than 500 people might get stressed in a huge city. So I packed my bags said bye to my family and moved to Arkansas to be around his "Wonderful" family... This wonderful family is just about the reason for any of our arguments. They live an hour away and we seem to have to make all the trips to see them. They only visit us when they are down in the "city" running errands. They drop in say hi and leave within an hour. This is the same family that my husband described as a close family? How is that? He wouldn't say anything until I start mentioning things. It really isn't his parents because they are indifferent with everyone and I don't put mind to it. However it bugs the living hell out of me when his siblings do awful things. For instance, His sister lives 1 1/2 hours away from us and she had a real bad pregnancy. On my days off from work I would go to her place and stay the night so I can do all her work around the house since she was on bed rest. While the whole time there I would have to pull her teeth to have a conversation. Once I would leave she would call my husband to thank him. I thought I was there all night? Why is he getting called? If we go a while without seeing her she would call my husband and whine on how they haven't seen him in ever. (Even if they were in town the day before and called us after they left town). Now his brother his TWIN brother is obviously upset about losing his other half. He also has the bad habit of visiting only we he has been in town all day and needs to use the facilities before heading back home. You can not say anything against this great brother because my husband gets upset. So I try to be civil. The twin and I don't see eye to eye because he is a grown man dating a 17 year old and thinks I am a "Bitch" (His own words) for not allowing him and he minor at my house. He is more than welcome to come by but I am a mother I will not have that in my house. But before the Minor incident my husband was called last minute to pack his bags and leave for a 2 month mission. Literally it was last minute (Less than 24 hours). We were in the middle of signing for a house and I have no family here to help with the moving. So he had ask his wonderful TWIN to help me move. I hadn't packed anything because I wanted to have the keys to the house before assuming that it was ours. So his Twin called me an hour after I signed and said that he would be in town in two days and he can move the stuff then. So I told him that I hadn't packed anything yet so I wasn't sure if he should waste his time for a box or so but I would call him and let him know if a got any futher in the packing worth making the trip for. So the day he called my husband to see if I was ready to move. This again? As if my phone doesn't work. My husband talked to me earlier and knew I wasn't so he told him maybe he can help me another day. Twin was all upset and complained how precious his time is. After I heard this, I called him I told him his services were no longer needed and I hired a moving company. (My husband is still upset about this, he says his brother would have helped) The entire time my husband was gone his family never looked for me. Okay so Thanksgiving just passed. I was having Thanksgiving at my house, my mom and dad were coming in. We had plans with his side as well. His sister calls HIM 4 DAYS before Thanksgiving and says that they can't make it because they have a football game the next day they are going to... 4 days? Thanks now I have surplus in food. My husband doesn't understand why I am upset. So his sister is having a Christmas party and is dying to see us. I really don't want to go. Right now I am honestly drained with his siblings and to have alcohol around them isn't going to help. I would like for us not to go. It isn't even on Christmas, it is just there excuse to get together and get drunk. So I told him. He got all upset and thinks that I am being ridiculous. He also lectured me about already making plans with then about going and that we were going to stay there.... SO he decided he'd go anyway. He isn't upset so why should he not have fun? Are you serious? Aren't we one. Don't we have to do things we don't want to do sometimes to make the other happy? Why do I feel like I am being shafted?
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