what is a good way to ask if my guy is....

[Guest]

i've been seeing my guy for a month.

 

we have great chemistry, we get along great.

i've met the special people in his life (best friends & family) and he's met mine also.

i spend weekends at his place (he has his own house)

we've been acting like we're "together" for the whole time pretty much (except for having sex) he treats me like his girlfriend.

 

the only thing is, we haven't talked about being exclusive...

 

how do i ask him if we are without coming off too forward or looking stupid? that's the last thing i wanna do is make him think that i'm desperent.

 

i just want to know if it's just us, or is he seeing others?

 

please help

[brickaney]

The best way to talk to a guy is straightforward. Generally speaking, men say what they mean and mean what they say. If he's introduced you to family and friends he's not playing games. If he didn't want to be "exclusive" with you then he wouldn't be dating you for a month and introducing you to important people in his life. Just be honest, tell him in a clear way that you are wanting to be exclusive and ask him if that's what he wants as well. If he doesn't then he's been sending mixed signals the whole time, so tell him that.

[whichwayisup]

Is it possible that it's just assumed that you both are exclusive with eachother? I mean, him inviting you home and introducing you to his family and friends is something...If you were a casual gal-pal in his life, I doubt he would have done that.

 

Just talk to him.

[alphamale]

so let me see....you've known each other for 4 whole weeks and have already met each other's friends and family and you spend entire wknds together and you're already tied at the hip? WTF man!! ARe you both crazy?

 

The way its going you'll both be married in another 4 wks. What ever happened to taking your time and being patient and not desperate?

 

Most of the women I date don't meet my friend and family until the 6 month mark.