DRDimeMami Posted December 1, 2006 Posted December 1, 2006 Ok so this is the story. I met a guy at the airport and I gave him my number because I thought he was really cute. But before I ever met the airport guy, there was another guy that liked me and wanted me to be his girlfriend, but I had turned him down because I was talking to someone else which we will call call GUY #1. Now GUY #1 and I have stopped talking and he has a girlfriend so hes pretty much out of the picture. And the airport guy really likes me and I like him too and hes a great person.. but I kept on thinking about the guy I had turned down. So recently I called "guy I turned down" to see whats up with him and I found out that he is still interested in me. Because he did get mad and hurt when I said I was talking to GUY #1. So now that GUY #1 is out of the picture completely, I'm stuck between the airport guy and "guy I turned down". I don't want to hurt none of them. They both are great guys. But airport guy lives kind of far from me and he told me since the beginning it might not work between us because of the distance... and I've only seen him once which was that first and last time at the airport. The rest of the time we've been getting to know each other on the phone just talking. "Guy I turned down" lives nearby me and I went to school with him as well. So I'm really confused as to what to do. I need help, its making me go crazy. Airport guy acts too dramatic sometimes and calls alot and starts jumping into conclusions if I don't pick up my phone.. he starts saying tell me if you dont want to be with me. And "guy I turned down".. well we havent really spoken alot either because we just spoke yesterday for the first time in like 2 months. I don't want to hurt "guy I turned down" again because the first time I hurt him was when I told him that I was talking to GUY #1.. and look at how it turned out.. nothing happened between me and GUY #1 because he has a girlfriend now.. I know somebody is bound to get hurt... so if somebody can give me some advice, suggestions, experiences, help, something! Let me know. It would be greatly appreciated.
norajane Posted December 1, 2006 Posted December 1, 2006 Airport guy sounds like a controlling loser. The guy you turned down isn't someone you should be playing games with. If you like him and can commit to being in a relationship with him, go for it. If you think you'll keep an eye out for someone better, don't put him through that again.
HeadlessZebra Posted December 2, 2006 Posted December 2, 2006 Oye vieja, tremendos losers que te metiste. Let's see, you didn't think highly enough of "guy you turned down", and so you turned him down. So obviously you don't like him that much, so why should you settle for him? Is it that important to have a man? Airport guy is a freak. How could someone give you the third degree over not answering the phone when they've only met you once. Psycho! Ditch him. I choose © None of the Above Go find a sane guy you actually like.
someone2 Posted December 2, 2006 Posted December 2, 2006 I'd say give "guy you turned down before" another chance. I can't see anything ever happening between you and the airport guy. Yes, someone will get hurt, but the sooner it happens the better. Sometimes, we feel the need to be nice, but this only complicates things further. Because eventually, you will have to be with just one person. The more time it takes you to decide, the more you hurt the person you don't want to be with.
Author DRDimeMami Posted December 2, 2006 Author Posted December 2, 2006 Yeah I got myself into somewhat of a mess. I always liked "guy I turned down".. since I saw him in school and we spoke and all that. I only turned him down because I thought I was "talking" and about to go out with GUY #1. But when I saw that GUY #1 and I were not getting anywhere.. I said forget it. And I had met airport guy. And airport guy really likes me alot and hes falling and falling. I know its wrong because I'm kinda leading him on and it hurts me to hurt one of them or either both of them. So I'm stuck. I know "guy I turned down" is still interested from what he told me. I just don't want to regret anything later on. Like be.. damn I missed out on this dude and rejected him twice then he will never really wanna talk to me eva again. And airport guy, I just know he likes me alot but its hard to say anything to him.. cuz I feel like I have to be nice and I can't hurt him cuz I care too much. I just don't want to go out with "guy I turned down" and not be happy. Maybe airport guy got to me too much by saying "I hope you find someone better or somebody like me that will treat you right".. they both are good guys and have never done anything hurt me. Seems like I'll be the one doing the hurting.. sucks. Well anymore advice is welcome.. holla.
melodymatters Posted December 2, 2006 Posted December 2, 2006 sounds like this is why people DATE. D-A-T-E. you don't know EITHER of them well enough to be in a committed relationship, so you be honest, and date whoever the hell you want, until something is meaningful enough to go bf/gf. If any of these guys have a problem with it, they are probably too immature to be good Bf material anyway ! Good luck !
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