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I was interested in everyone's techniques in getting over an ex, not because I want to use them but just for the hell of it. Personally, when I get out of a relationship I find myself pushing myself to the limit as far as working hard goes and working out. So basically work, heavy metal and weight lifting are what have gotten me through past breakups.

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For me, it was couple of weeks of self pity. Then I went through a two week phase where I thought about how to get her back. And now I just keep myself occupied, go to the gym every day, listen to my favorite music and I can feel a difference every day. Now I seriously don't think that I would take her back and I'm soon gonna be good enough for dating again :)

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I've been getting back into hobbies that I really enjoy. I work as a makeup artist part time and I've been going back to that and working on my craft. I've also been hanging out with friends. Doing a lot of laughing which is really good for the soul. I've been seeing a counseler as well. It's helped me to sort out my own stuff. I've even started going back to church. That has helped me tremendously. I was basically a happy camper before the "now" ex came into my life. Now I'm trying to get what I had back, but be in a much better light to do more things for myself and the folks that I care about. And for me to invite the person that will be there for me into my life. This was a good week for me. On the 3rd of December, I will be a 30 day survivor of NC! I feel good right now. I hope it continues.

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drugs, alcohol, sex, and rockin roll.... in that order!

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I was interested in everyone's techniques in getting over an ex, not because I want to use them but just for the hell of it. Personally, when I get out of a relationship I find myself pushing myself to the limit as far as working hard goes and working out. So basically work, heavy metal and weight lifting are what have gotten me through past breakups.

 

 

 

Going out and alot of sex

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Tequila and the silver bullet

My Fair Katie Established Member

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Alcohol and indescriminate sex.

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i just take everything out on the next person

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Time and keeping myself occupied with various hobbies and stuff.

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drugs, alcohol, sex, and rockin roll.... in that order!

 

LOL

 

I was going to say something similar.

 

Drinking, masturbating, dating, smoking, and listening to loud music. Working out and building up muscle tone is another big one (yes, a lot are negative things but I don't give **ck at this moment).

 

LOL

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......Drinking, masturbating, dating, smoking, and listening to loud music. Working out and building up muscle tone is another big one (yes, a lot are negative things but I don't give **ck at this moment)....

 

Are you mastubating thinking about the ex? :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

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LOL

 

I was going to say something similar.

 

Drinking, masturbating, dating, smoking, and listening to loud music. Working out and building up muscle tone is another big one (yes, a lot are negative things but I don't give **ck at this moment).

 

LOL

 

Are you masturbating thinking about the ex? :laugh::laugh::laugh:

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First it was self pity, looking at my relationship and what went wrong and looking at my part in it which lead to its downfall.

 

Then listening to music full blast. I wasnt allowed to talk about my relationship with my ex at home so I would write down my feelings and hide it from them in case they found it.

 

Concentrated on myself, university and other things and just focused on me for a change. It took me a while to realise that he is the one who has lost something.

 

Now I couldnt be happier, although I do dream about him still (which is getting tedious to say the least) I am soo over him. I just tell myself that I will find myself someone who is a million times better than him and that I was too good for him in the first place lol.

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......Drinking, masturbating, dating, smoking, and listening to loud music. Working out and building up muscle tone is another big one (yes, a lot are negative things but I don't give **ck at this moment)....

 

Are you mastubating thinking about the ex? :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

 

People won't admit it, but when pining for an EX masturbation is at it's best. I did some reading and talking to a therapist about this, and they agreed this does happen to many people. The weird thing about it, is I sometimes fantasize about her and the other guy, don't ask me why I can't even explain it.

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Screaming the F word helps me a lot! I always feel better afterwards.

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What techniques work? I find that none of them work, time subsides the pain. But It's up to you I guess to actually make the techniques work. I masterbate to the ex from time to time, not healthy but It gets me off eh? haha How can you actually tell your self to stop thinking of your ex and move on? How? It's been a year and almost 5 months of trying to get over the ex and it hasn't happend. Thats not abnormal, It's very normal. I know It will take a new love to take away all the feelings I had for my ex. I am doing great though...

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working out hardcore, random flings, working a lot, schoolwork, reading

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Getting stoned.

 

Seriously.

 

...Who?

FallenTree Member

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Getting stoned.

 

esp when drinking gets old

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Lots of sex with multiple partners ...:bunny:

 

I never thought of my ex's while playing with myself...hrmm.....

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re:

 

" Lets hear everyone's ways of getting over an ex... "

 

I start (like everyone else) by crying, whining, wallowing in my misery (Smile).

 

That's the behavior of the "wounded".

 

Then I graduate to anger, then I wake up and start doing "damage control", then I pamper, console, and tell myself really good things.

 

I normally reach out to others (immediately) and start the old "Cripple helping the Cripples" routine which is ingrained in me (Smile) -and very helpful to me.

 

Then I eventually get my bearings and pull out of it.

 

It normally takes me about 5 months or so before I'm good to go, again.

 

('nother Smile).

 

I also want to add that, for me, with every broken heart I've had -every single one of them- there's never been one that seemed (to me) insignificant at the time -they were all important.

 

It's always been much later, when the healing is complete -that I feel varying degrees of foolishness.

 

There is only *one* exception to my statements: a relationship ending due to the death of your beloved cannot be placed in the same category as others; it's a different kind of broken heart.

 

And some of those never mend.

 

-Rio

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