ScaredWitless Posted December 1, 2006 Posted December 1, 2006 Do you believe in dating intuition ? I have struck up a friendship with a boy I dated 9 years ago. I'm now 28 and that's was a long time ago that I knew him. I feel like I'm starting new and like he is a different person. Even though I was once crazy about him, my gut keeps telling me to run away ! He looks great on paper and hasn't given me a real reason to be so wary of him. But everytime I think about dating his seriously, I get this weird sick feeling in my stomach and I get this bad feeling about him. I can't put my finger on it but something about him utterly creeps me out. He's handsome, rich and devoted to his family. Externally he seems perfect. Why does he fill me with dread ? He says how much he likes me an dhas missed me for years and I don't know how to tell him politely no I've changed my mind and never even want to be in his presence again because he makes my skin crawl ? And I feel bad because I've only acted thrilled that we've reconnected as friends.
Trialbyfire Posted December 1, 2006 Posted December 1, 2006 Stay away. Even if he is okay, which I doubt because I strongly believe in intuition, if he gives you the creeps, it's not worth forcing yourself to get involved in any kind of relationship with him.
Prise Posted December 1, 2006 Posted December 1, 2006 Even if he is okay, which I doubt because I strongly believe in intuition... Ah, perhaps you're giving a bit too much credence to intuition?
bluescreenlife Posted December 1, 2006 Posted December 1, 2006 Maybe he's someone you might want to commit to, and you're scared that that'll trap you? Or maybe there's too much baggage from the past?
norajane Posted December 1, 2006 Posted December 1, 2006 What kind of creepy feeling do you get? Is it like, wow, maybe he's a serial killer or kicks kittens when no one looking? Is he strange in his personal habits, like has a maniacal laugh or lives with his mommy? Is he controlling in some way? Is it that he's too perfect and you'd be worried about falling for him and getting dumped?
Spinderella Posted December 1, 2006 Posted December 1, 2006 maybe it is nostalgia nausea, which i get sometimes. on the other hand, i think you should follow your feelings, even if he is ok, you are not going to feel good about him.
Antheia Posted December 2, 2006 Posted December 2, 2006 It recently happened to me. I can't explain it. Some guy I dated in the past asked me out again. Thing, is on paper he would be prefect for me. Tall, attractive, smart, kind and after a long term relationship. Everytime I would think of going on a date with him, I would get this sick feeling. Not nervous sick, but creepy "ewww" sick. Like "No, I just CAN'T go". So I canceled at the last minute 5 times (poor guy). Fianally this week, I went out with him. I had to ignore my sick feeeling and force myself to go. It was the most awkaward date in the history of mankind. I just felt even more creeped out when I was with him in person. I couldn't wait to get away. He wanted to see me again but I said no. I'm not talking about serial killer "creeps me out" here, just something that makes me want to get as far away from him as possible, the opposite of "attract". Could be my weird fear of commintment, but that usually kicks in in later stages of the dating proccess.
Recommended Posts