brokenwithouther Posted November 30, 2006 Posted November 30, 2006 How do you know if NC is the right choice to make?
Kelso Posted November 30, 2006 Posted November 30, 2006 It always works...No doubt about that. If your ex is undecided it may help you to get him/her back to you. If your ex has decided that she doesn't wanna be with you - it will help you getting over him/her. If he/she is over you and doesn't wanna be with you, you will torture yourself by calling her from time to time. In my case we broke up 6 weeks ago and for the first weeks after the breakup I used NC in order to try to get her back to me. As the time passes, I have realized that I car a lot for her ... but if she doesn't love me, then she isn't the right for me. Therefore I changed my NC from "trying to get her back" to "trying to get over her". One thing is true...you will delay your healing by staying in contact.
agnf666 Posted November 30, 2006 Posted November 30, 2006 No contact works... Believe me. I'm doing it right now. I really don't want to talk to him agian. He was a jerk though. So, I think it all depends on what happened. I'm friends with one of my ex's but we never really talk anymore anyways. I mean I have enough friends I really don't need anymore. So, it's something you have to make your mind up on.
luvtoto Posted November 30, 2006 Posted November 30, 2006 NC is a good choice if every time you see, hear from, or hear about your X, your pain resurfaces all over again.
Author brokenwithouther Posted December 1, 2006 Author Posted December 1, 2006 So should this apply to marriages as well? We are supposed to start counseling on Monday and I don't know if this would help or hurt.
D-Lish Posted December 1, 2006 Posted December 1, 2006 So should this apply to marriages as well? We are supposed to start counseling on Monday and I don't know if this would help or hurt. If both parties are on board for counselling- it is something you should do if you want the marriage to work.
Author brokenwithouther Posted December 1, 2006 Author Posted December 1, 2006 The counseling or NC? There's very little contact between us now. I've seen her for lunch three times this week but we only talk on the phone briefly a couple of times a day? Well...IDK as I was typing that I guess there is contact. Just not enough for me??? That's being selfish right? I'm basically saying "I want more but she's not giving it to me!". But then again the lunches were her idea not mine. She asked me to go to her xmas party and again not my decision. I told her that if she wants me there then I would be more than happy to go. I'm so confused.
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