Greenfrog Posted November 30, 2006 Posted November 30, 2006 I'm in the process of moving from NYC back to my hometown 100 miles away. I have to spend the next month packing, leasing/buying a car, arranging all the utilities/cable/bank/insurance/movingcompany stuff. Have to buy new stuff for place including appliances. When I move home I know I will be spending time helping my grandmother who is almost 96 with things to make her life easier. And starting a new job too. Additionally I had a bad health scare that just turned out okay, but still left me wiped out and now I have to have surgery for it all around New Year's. (Will take a week to recover) Tack on an exBF who is at turns melancholy/cruel/suicidal towards me, even though Ive tried to tell him to leave me alone and move on now. And lastly I still have a budding bona fide internet stalker who Im still trying to figure out whether to ignore or go to the police about. So I feel so farking overwhelmed right now that I want to crawl up in a ball. I know I'll get thru it all and in 2-3 months will be happy I moved and feeling good. Right now though I want to stop dwelling on any guys and put any new connections on hold. Here's the problem. There is a great guy who has been sweet, patient and very cool listening to my problems and being supportive. He's also very attractive and great boyfriend potential. Not the kind of guy who girls ignore. He lives in my hometown and seems excited that Im almost moved home. How do I explain to this really great guy that I would love to explore things with him 2-3 moths from now and not at present ? Im afraid that no matter what I say he'll feel rejected and look elsewhere. Very frustrating. Im just not in dating mode right now. I really really like him a lot and it sucks to have to pass him up for now and possibly risk the chance that he'll be taken when Im ready to date. Am I a dumbass to just concentrate on getting myself moved and my life in order for a while ?
melodymatters Posted November 30, 2006 Posted November 30, 2006 Achhh ! That is SO hard ! I did that once and DID lose my chance at a good guy ( not saying it would have worked out between us forever and ever, but he was a good guy) But, I am going through the same thing, got so much going on, I don't even want to THINK about dating. How about if your super honest, like what you just wrote here, and ask if he could be a "friend" for those few months ? it could make the relationship even better if and when you do have one. good luck !!!
Author Greenfrog Posted November 30, 2006 Author Posted November 30, 2006 How about if your super honest, like what you just wrote here, and ask if he could be a "friend" for those few months ? Thanks, but guess what ? I was honest and gave him an idea of how much Ive got going on and his response was that he would offer any help I asked for and that he was sorry I was under so much pressure. He said he'd respect my decision either way and that he's sad the timing seems off. ARGH. Even though he's a gem to offer to help, I feel like a hot mess right now. Insomnia, cranky and I'm dressing like hell because Im so busy running around like maniac. Brushing my teeth & putting on deoderant is my beauty regime right now. I just know Id be giving him a bad impression right now. ::sigh:: Guess I'll have to put him on the back burner and take a fatalistic attitude. If it's meant to be, he'll still be around. Boo, still sucks.
Author Greenfrog Posted December 4, 2006 Author Posted December 4, 2006 Alrighty then. I am officially taking a long hiatus from all dating. 2-3 months. I was totally honest with the guy I WAS interested in and he acted very cool, polite and sweet towards me. But it turns out he ending up iming a friend of mine and got very sexual with her online several hours after I told him I wouldnt be dating anyone until Feb/March. Wow didnt waste any time He then told her at 2 am to come stand outside her apartment building so he could get a good look at her. Then he asked if she would like to have 'natural' sex and let him come inside her without condoms (only if she was on pill) Then he proceeded to describe his penis as average size but very very thick. She told him she couldnt have a quickie with him, he then responded 5 minutes later that he already come, she missed it and he was no longer interested. She thought it was funny at first but now realises I am sad to have a second guy in one month turn out to be a huge creep. Should I even tell him that he was punked and that Im done with him ? Or just let him wonder why he never hears from me ever again ? I frankly feel like giving the creep lecture on safe sex and preventing stds.
Green Posted December 4, 2006 Posted December 4, 2006 very strange, just do what ever u want. give him a lecture if thats going to do it for u
someone2 Posted December 4, 2006 Posted December 4, 2006 very strange, just do what ever u want. give him a lecture if thats going to do it for u nah.. I say just ignore his ass. He is not worth your time, really.
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