Guest Posted November 30, 2006 Posted November 30, 2006 So we were together for two years. we were engaged and I thought we were very much in love. To make a long story short, I found out he was cheating on me so I moved out. I was devastated. I still am. He calls me everyday crying and telling me how sorry he is... I have been being nice to him because I feel bad for him (I know, Pathetic). He even had the nerve to tell me that he was over her house helping her family with something! He tells me he doesn't have a relationship with her and I don't think he is. I think he was trying to make me envious. I guess my question is... How do I stop feeling sorry for HIM???? How do you love someone for so long and then just not give a **** when you see them hurting? I want to go one day where I don't think of him crying and have my heart break. I am a 29 year old girl and he took two of the best years of my life away from me... why am I not furious?????
xo_Lost In Love_xo Posted November 30, 2006 Posted November 30, 2006 Why aren't you furious with him? Well, it sounds to me as if your heart is still with him. You don't just spend 2 years of your life with someone and not love them. You don't just "fall out of love". You are hurt because of what he did to you and it sounds as if he is also hurt from his actions. Everyone makes mistakes. What he did was totally wrong and I would have left also....BUT Sometimes if you more than love someone.. i.e. if you are IN LOVE with someone, your heart still belongs to them. People do make mistakes and some learn from them. Sometimes mistakes make a relationship stronger. You ask why you aren't furious... it seems to me that you must love this man ... otherwise you wouldn't care one bit about his feelings... let alone still talking to him. I guess you need to ask yourself these questions: * Do you want to be furious with him and get over him and stop worrying about his feelings? or * Are you not furious with him and so concerned about his feelings because you still love him? Once you figure this out and you know where your head is, then things will start to get a little easier for you and you can follow your heart and head in the right direction. It's hard. My ex and I have been thru alot for a couple years also. But regardless, we have now both realized how much we love each other.
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