Crimson107 Posted November 30, 2006 Posted November 30, 2006 It was stupid of me to cheat. I no good reason. Now it is all coming back on me. It has been a few months, I confessed it all. Felt all the grief that comes with my side of being a betraying person. Life just keeps pilling up the **** to make things work. I love her but don't think I will be good enough for her anymore. I think she loves me but I made it change with my sin. We were apart for a month but I acted in a way that will seperate us for a very long time or forever. Now, my car is about to get repo'd. I don't know if my contract to work will go past the 1st. Christmas is coming with barely anything for the kids and family. My 10 year anniversary is the day after and I don't know how to make it special since I have no time, money, resources . . . DAMN, I want to love my wife but it seems like there are so many things in the way. Some I can control, some I can't and some I foolishly put there for cheap sex. What a great way to start a new chapter in life - create new sins that warps the whole purpose of doing things. Regret is the worse thing I can ever feel. I hate what I became from lies. It is sobering. I hope to someday make things work. I don't deserve it now more than ever but all I can do is hope all things endure all things and love my wife.
Ripples Posted November 30, 2006 Posted November 30, 2006 Um, I don't know your history - but that thing about not being able to make your anniversary special? You don't need money or many resources to do so. Time may be an issue... You could: 1. Write her a letter expressing your love, gratitude and desire for your wife. Leave it for her to find with a bunch of flowers. 2. Before she gets home, arrange for someone to baby sit your children, put tea lights all over the house, up the stairs, in the bedroom. Play soft music. A box of chocs or a cheap bottle of wine by the bed. Give her a massage. (Don't expect sex, btw. Not sure what stage you're at post-affair). 3. Throw a party, make it bring a bottle so you're not forking out a load on booze. 4. Take a drive (borrow a car) somewhere romantic, have a picnic prepared, carve yours and her initials on a tree in a love heart. I dunno, there's lots of things you can do to make it special, they don't have to be big, extravagant gestures. Sometimes the small things mean the most.
Guest Posted December 1, 2006 Posted December 1, 2006 Its been almost a year since I had my affair and things are finally starting to get better. My husband isn't so obsessed with everything I do. I think the only good thing is we still love each other and been together for 28yrs. Hang in there things should get better for u, just try showing her u love her
sinceyouasked Posted December 1, 2006 Posted December 1, 2006 It's been almost three years since my affair was over. Almost always I think my wife is over it though at times I wonder as she still comes to LS. I still cannot believe I deceived her we also have been together for 28 years, Guest. Hold on to the fact that your wife is working at forgiving you Crimson and know that it will work out in the end. As Guest says something good can come out of the affair. Make it clear to your wife everyday that you love her and regret what you did.
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