bebegal Posted November 30, 2006 Posted November 30, 2006 so.. Ive been dating this guy for about a year and a half. I do not know much about his past with other women but with me..Anyway--a little background information over the past few weeks.. he is extremely scared of disease(s) and I just found out I have hpv(not the genital warts the kind that causes cancer) and thought it had lead to cancer(which I just found was just inflammation. When I first told him he freaked out and said he needed to think about things..etc but we would get through it(though it was really just me taking care of everything) and we never really talked about it again He has never met my parents..and I just told him 3 wks ago that my dad has parkinsons, badly. ( my family lives in London) and he had been talking about wanting to meet them but after I told him this again he said he needed to think about things. I had told him I have a wedding in june I want to bring him to and a couple of weeks ago he said sure--but now he was much more hesitant... Finally a few weeks ago we having a discussion about marriage and he said sometimes he could see himself marrying me and other times he cant. I am not sociable enough..I am too impulsive..however he also listed all of the things he is crazy about me for. Anyway-He has never said I love you and to be honest I am scared that if I said it to him he would tell me he did not love me...but I do not not know if he is holding out or waiting for me to say it. Also--I do not think now is a good time to bring it up after everything else I have told him(I feel like I am on an emotional roller coaster these days). I am confused abotu our relationship--I wonder if the two things I listed above will make him think harder about not wanting to marry me..and I just need some insight about what the appropriate thing to be doing now. Give him some distance..act like nothing is wrong..tell him I love him..wait for him to tell me..please please help!! I am so confused where I stand but I want this relationship to be fun and wonderful to him and I feel like I keep burdening him with bad news. Who wants to be with someone like that?
Poboy Posted November 30, 2006 Posted November 30, 2006 umm , this point that he is scared of diseases is very important imo... im assuming you are young now but if you end up marrying him and in the future when you are older , god forbid if something happens , will he be there to take care of you , kids & stuff around you .... sounds like he might bail considering his resposnse. what do you think ? I know its hypothetical & far off in the future , but worth considering... as far as what to do , you need to weigh in the pros & cons of being with him & consider the next move & if you are unsure of things , have a converstaion about them...
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