MTK Posted November 30, 2006 Posted November 30, 2006 Just wondering if I'm a friend, or crush, should I ask her out? I'm a jr. in college, and she's a soph. Towards the end of Sept., I started hanging out with this girl "Jeanna." We hung out a couple times, nothing serious, didn't make a move on her because I didn't feel right about it. I'd rather get to know someone first before I bring in intamacy. We'd talk online about once a day or every couple of days; childhood stories, etc. A couple times I was about ready to say screw it, I'm tired of doing all the initiating of contact with J, then she'd start talking to me. Over Halloween, I got too drunk at a party and ruined a good chance to flirt with her and see about hanging out more. Some time has passed now. Last Friday, she came over fto my dorm room for night of drinking games. She wore my football jersey that I hung over my futon, we were on the same team, touching/contact, she downloaded music onto my computer because she wanted to expand my musical sense, etc. A while later that night, everything's perfect;I was standing up and holding her when I realized this was the perfect chance to ask her out- everything felt right for once. Well, my not-so-smart friend returned to the room for the 3rd time in like 5 mins when the other 5 people in there were trying to get him/everyone else out so Jeanna and I could be alone finally. I tried to recover by asking her to watch a movie in my room that Sunday night, she said she might come over. She didn't, but apologized for not coming over, citing homework, test, and a paper -which all 3 were true. The Thanksgiving break came around on Tues, she went home and I went home as well. I called her up on Friday and talked for about 15 mins, then left it alone. When we came back to school, I talked with her online for a little while. She stopped by my dorm room with her best friend, but I got shock and awed by not expecting either of them that I pretty much was a pile of untalkative crap. Still, yesterday she couldn't wait to show off her new hair dye and wanted me to see it. I asked her to come on over again this coming Friday for more drinking games (beer pong in case you were wondering) because we both had such a great time previously. She's even got her facebook picture from one pic I took that night, and I'm on her "top friends" list on myspace. She answered one of my bulletins last night even. Tonight we had a 2 hour shaving cream fight with her and her best friend and my roomy and I. She's not shy about me touching her (trying to steal back my can of SC and fighting her off), wrestling on the ground for my shorts she stole, etc. By the way, she steals my stuff; my jersey from beer pong night, shirts, shorts now, my bartender bottle opener. It was a fun night for everyone I think. However, I've been reading up some things on LS as well that makes me wonder. 2 people have already said to her that I like her -would like to start dating her. She says we're friends initially (2 months ago), and now that I was #2 on her list of guys to start seeing (I then started talking to another girl unbeknownst to her). She hasn't decided if she wants to do another night of beer pong, but yesterday she said she would. Whenever she answers a myspace bulletin message saying if she has a crush on anyone, she always says, "no" and that "guys are psycho." She's been cheated on once I know, and I think her last relationship ended during the summer. One guy went stalker mode on her, texting her 30 times, leaving 3 voicemails, and 10 myspace comments all in one day, and this repeated a couple times. I know I've been spacious when I talk to her, and avoid smothering her as much as possible, but we still talk a lot. I really like this girl, she knows it, and she's "different" than a normal girl, even my female friends have said so and were a little surprised that I was interested in Jeanna. I'm starting to pick up on the body language of chewing nails, lots of eye contact, physical touching, etc. I think my chances are good, but I got burned by getting dumped from a 4 year relationship for a new bf in 2 days last March, that I only got over in September, and Jeanna knows it. Am I being too stubborn to admit she likes me, overanalyzing too much because I'm afraid I'll get hurt again, but I've come to the conclusion the last 3 weeks that I really like her and feel about the same for her as I did my first gf. Thanks, MTK
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