xLOPES Posted November 30, 2006 Posted November 30, 2006 ive just finished reading a thread and its replies about shyness, flirting, and the principles of preparation towards the girl, and it kinda made me feel like my chances with this 'one' girl is in the crapper. one of the replies explained that if you focus solely upon one girl, then rejection would be taken much worse, therefore saying focus on more than one at a time. my situation is pretty much this. i've focused on this ONE girl for about a year now, and nothings become of anything. i've talked to her, little by little, but came to the point of absolute obsession. now, i feel embarassed for the things i just straight out explained to her, about , of course, my 'feelings'. now talking to her is even harder than before. nevertheless, i see it would be hard for anything positive to result. first of all, i dont believe she likes me in the way i like her, BUT im certain she, at one point, did im finding it extremely difficult to find ways for her to notice, talk, and even 'like' me, as well as finding the confidence to go up to her, because of my embarassment. i know this is something hard to ask help for, but all i want is advice towards success, in anything that would better my chances with HER. help....
VandGsMom Posted November 30, 2006 Posted November 30, 2006 .... i've talked to her, little by little, but came to the point of absolute obsession. now, i feel embarassed for the things i just straight out explained to her, about , of course, my 'feelings'.... first of all, i dont believe she likes me in the way i like her, BUT im certain she, at one point, did... Sorry, hon. It sounds like she may have been a little turned off by your too-obvious attention. There is a point during flirtation, even when you like a guy, that he either steps up and asks you out to take things to the next level, or he becomes the creppy stalker who won't leave you alone, but won't ask you out so you can tell him no. You might just have to do the "rip out the splinter" method on this one, and ask her out before you DO scare her off if you haven't already.
Author xLOPES Posted December 1, 2006 Author Posted December 1, 2006 im thinking itll be pretty hard to just, after all i havent talked to her due to my embarassment, go up to her and ask her out.. it might be kinda surprising, and possibly... i dono
silentalways Posted December 1, 2006 Posted December 1, 2006 if u have not dated this person in the past, and have been thinking about this for over a year - maybe you should talk to someone or a doctor about that. if u dated and broke up, her with you, and she has no replied, you are freaking her out and expect either the cops or some tuffs at yer abode - so, stop it. if she digs ya she'll tell ya. so, don't wait for a black eye, or a night in the slammer or for her to decided if u are sponge worthy, turn yer attention to someone that will communicate with u. don't be upset because she doesn't 'feel ya' - that's life. make sense?
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