MOMMIE Posted November 30, 2006 Posted November 30, 2006 I Have Been Having S*x With A Man For 2 Years....in The Beginning I Didn't Want A Relationship And He Said He Didn't Either....that Was 2 Years Ago...now, I Feel Deeply For Him, And I Was Hoping That He Would Get Around To Telling Me That He Felt The Same...so My Question Is....should I Just Assume That If He Doesn't Mention Getting Serious, Then He Doesn't Want To, Or Should I Bring It Up To Him...i Was Married For 15 Years, And Dating Is New To Me...i'm Really Wanting To Cut Him Off, But I Would Like Some Advice First...thanks
whichwayisup Posted November 30, 2006 Posted November 30, 2006 I think you need to talk to him about how you feel. 2 years is a long time and now that it seems you're wanting it to become more of a serious relationship rather than just friends with benefits.
greeneyedk Posted November 30, 2006 Posted November 30, 2006 After 2 years I think it is okay to share with him how you feel and see where you guys are heading. I wasn't sure from your post if you know where you want the last couple of years to lead. Do you want to cut him off only because you think he doesn't want a future or feel the same way Or is there another reason? You might aways wonder "what if?" if you were to go your own way without letting your feelings be known and finding out.
Author MOMMIE Posted November 30, 2006 Author Posted November 30, 2006 Oh Is That What They're Calling It These Days....i Feel So Terrible About Letting Myself Get Into This Hurtful Mess...i Played Mia On Him Tonite...i'm Almost Too Embarrassed To Even Bring It Up...how Long Could He Expect Me To Keep This Up???
whichwayisup Posted November 30, 2006 Posted November 30, 2006 Please just talk to him - Be upfront and honest. Seeing as you've been having a sexual relationship with him for 2 years, you should be able to know him well enough in the sense that he will listen to you and hear what you need to say. Don't play games or do the MIA with him. You're too old for that crap and Im sure he is as well.
Author MOMMIE Posted November 30, 2006 Author Posted November 30, 2006 I'm Not Really Sure Where I Thought It Was Going...i Never Really Thought About It...we Were Attracted To Each Other, And That's How It's Been...i'm Somewhat Ashamed That After All This Time, We're Still Doing The Same Thing...i Try To Act Like I'm Cool With It Because I Figured He Must Feel Something Because I Can't Seem To Shake Him...when I Act Funky Towards Him...he'll Say Something Like" Let's Talk Baby" Or "we Don't Have To Do Anything You Don't Want To Do???? What Does That Mean...in My Past Relationships, Things Have Just Naturally Progressed...i Never Had To "bring It Up"...
whichwayisup Posted November 30, 2006 Posted November 30, 2006 But this isn't a 'normal' relationship. You know this as does he! Which is why it seems he is asking you things like you mentioned in your above post. He probably wants more out of it too, but isn't sure if he should talk to you! JUST talk to the DUDE!! Don't be shy!
Author MOMMIE Posted November 30, 2006 Author Posted November 30, 2006 That Makes Perfect Sense...but How Do I Ask???? " Do You Want To Get Serious With Me?"
whichwayisup Posted November 30, 2006 Posted November 30, 2006 Something along the lines like this. "We've been doing this for 2 years now and I really enjoy being with you. I need to know how you feel about me because I have feelings for you." It depends on what approach you want to take? I say just speak from your heart and you can't go wrong.
westernxer Posted November 30, 2006 Posted November 30, 2006 He probably thinks you're hard to read, because You Keep Using Title Case. </snicker>
Author MOMMIE Posted November 30, 2006 Author Posted November 30, 2006 okay, i'm going to do what must be done:D ....and just out of curiousity, as a man, do you think that the "no relationship thing" is part of what keeps the "fire" between us??? My friend said "that the minute I mention committment things betweeen us physically will change for the worst"...???
westernxer Posted December 1, 2006 Posted December 1, 2006 as a man, do you think that the "no relationship thing" is part of what keeps the "fire" between us??? My friend said "that the minute I mention committment things betweeen us physically will change for the worst"...??? It can get worse if he's not looking for commitment, but what do I know...
Author MOMMIE Posted December 10, 2006 Author Posted December 10, 2006 Hey, I Just Wanted To Let You Know That I Did Bring Our Relationship (or The Lack There Of) Up To Him....he Said" I Don't Know What I Want....i Want Whatever You Want I Guess...i Don't Want To Not "see" You (i Believe That Means Sex)...i Was Not Happy, And I Said "well, I'm Not Doing This Anymore And I Want You To Leave Me Alone" And I Ran Out....that Was Almost 3 Weeks Ago...i Have Not Spoken To Him On The Phone, But I Did See Him In A Store, And He Had The Nerve To Approach Me And Act Like Nothing Had Happened...again, I Jetted Out And He Ran After Me...i Drove Off, And I Haven't Spoken To Him....i Am So Sad, And I Miss Him So Much...and We Are Both Too Old For This...i Don't Think I've Ever Had A Broken Heart Before....i Don't Like It...so Now What????
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