is this just for fun ?

[rollingover]

i am quite sad now and i dont know anymr what to say.

 

here is my story... I met this guy in one bar few months back. Everything was pretty normal and nothing special yet we kept on meeting each other from time to time. And something started growing between us.

 

One night he told me that he likes n he has special feeling for me and he also told me that he is leaving for overseas for few years very soon, becoz of his job. I told him that i like him too but both of us understand that it is not possible since he is going to go to the other part of the world which has at least 12 hrs time difference. So it is damn far.

Ok thats it ,we agreed to stay as friends. After that he went for holiday for a while, and he emailed me , said that he missed me . But i didnt really take it seriously even though i missed him badly.

The thing is i am really happy with him and every moments was so sweet.

 

After he came back from holiday, he told me again and again that he has feeling for me and I said to him that i still have feeling for him and i dont know what to do, in fact there is nothing i can do about it. Yet he said to me "you nevr know what is gonna happen ". and he said that it would be good if he and i are together.

so we kept on meeting each other until one day he started avoiding me. He just texted me or even nothing for a week (it was last week).

while he was doing that to me, i also tried to control my feeling. It gets harder for me , as i like him more and more .

 

Then last saturday he called me to meet up, i was very happy to hear him, we set a time for a dinner. i was very excited ..

but he canceled it last minutes and said he would go with his friends. i was very disapointed and said to him if he didnt want to meet me , it is fine for me. He replied "i want to meet you but i dont want to hurt you ". then he said " i want to meet u " i was still very disapointed so i said to him that i didnt want to meet him.

 

After few hours, he contacted me online and he said sorry and he told me that he always likes me and he missed me a lot during "one week missing in action" . He said thought of me a lot , feeling terrible and he missed me yet he knew he couldnt do anything. He admit again his feeling. I was so touched.Then we set a time to meet up. 2 days ago we met , we had dinner and we had a romantic nite and we promised to meet up again on wednesday ,because on thursday he is flying off.

 

and guess what ? he canceled it and said he has to meet his stupid landlord so that he couldnt meet me.

 

This is gonna be the last night i could see him ...and he didnt want to see me ?

what ? i am soooo disapointed. If i m really someone for him , then why he didnt make effort to meet me . And thursday, which is tomorrow, he is flying. I really dont know what to say. i am so disapointed and sad . These days i have been trying so hard to forget him and to control my feeling to him . It is like a conflict in my heart and i miss him like hell . I just want to see him before he goes. Nothing else.

I asked him if he is avoiding me , he said he is not , but it is hard to believe so.

 

Guys, what do u think ? why did he do that to me ? i dont know what to say anymore... i know it is not possible... but at least to have something sweet to remember. ... Why did he do that to me ? Is she just playing my feeling ?

i thought if he and i can do something about it...but i dont know what to say...i am very angry with him and very disapointed .. very sad..

please tell me... what do u think ...?

[norajane]

Sounds like the timing for you two was bad all the way around. I know it hurts - missed possibilities are really hard to swallow sometimes!

 

However, since he's going to be away for a few years, it really is best that you two didn't get closer. Take some time to get over this, and then get back out there and meet someone who will stay closer to home and be more attentive to you.

[ab avo]

My last relationship started out somewhat similar to yours except i was the one leaving and so i know how frustrating it is for you and for him. However, I really do think he's just not that into you. If a guy really do like you, he wont give a damn and would be willing to risk the pain of long distance relationship just to have you as his girl. And about the landlord issue, that's bulls. If he likes you as much as what he wants you to believe, all he would think about is how he wants to spend time with you as much as he could before he leaaves. Heck, he would even invite you to visit him when he's settled in at wherever he'll be...So cut your lost and move on, it's hard but it's the only way.

[rollingover]

My last relationship started out somewhat similar to yours except i was the one leaving and so i know how frustrating it is for you and for him. However, I really do think he's just not that into you. If a guy really do like you, he wont give a damn and would be willing to risk the pain of long distance relationship just to have you as his girl. And about the landlord issue, that's bulls. If he likes you as much as what he wants you to believe, all he would think about is how he wants to spend time with you as much as he could before he leaaves. Heck, he would even invite you to visit him when he's settled in at wherever he'll be...So cut your lost and move on, it's hard but it's the only way.

 

thanks for your feedback. I totally agree to what u said. He is not serious to me and eventhough i feel sucks, somehow i feel relieve to know where i am now. But , i wonder, how was your relationship ? Is it still on ? what did u do that time ? if you dont mind, please share... thanks again for your support..

[ab avo]

I'm glad to hear you're getting over the dude, believe me there are plenty of yummier fishes in the sea.

 

Well, sadly, I was the one who ended the relationship. He was the perfect boyfriend but I knew that by prolonging our long-distance relationship, it would actually make things worst for both of us. I had to be "cruel to be kind". He didn't understand at first (and maybe still doesn't) how this "break" could be the saviour of our relationship in a long run. Nevertheless, we're still friends and there's that possibility of us getting back together when there's no longer that distance separating us; but I'm not expecting anything and I'm active in the dating scene as well as him.

 

The relationship before it ended was great, terrific even. We didn't call each other at all during the time apart (because I told him I didn't like talking on the phone) but we always scheduled to meet each other online and chat as well as email each other at least once a week. I was not and still am not the kind of girl who needs a lot of those "you need to email me 4 times a day, 7 days a week" from the start...and maybe that was why the relationship was able to last for longer than anybody had expected. I believe in a long distance relationship, both parties need to have a realistic goal & expectation. Also, there need to be a set date of when will the long distance change into the no-more-distance relationship because it will never work without that little small glimse of hope. And the most important things of all, love and trust.

 

glad to be of any help. i just love LS, it's the greatest place to get as well as give advice on relationship.

[rollingover]

I'm glad to hear you're getting over the dude, believe me there are plenty of yummier fishes in the sea.

 

Well, sadly, I was the one who ended the relationship. He was the perfect boyfriend but I knew that by prolonging our long-distance relationship, it would actually make things worst for both of us. I had to be "cruel to be kind". He didn't understand at first (and maybe still doesn't) how this "break" could be the savior of our relationship in a long run. Nevertheless, we're still friends and there's that possibility of us getting back together when there's no longer that distance separating us; but I'm not expecting anything and I'm active in the dating scene as well as him.

 

The relationship before it ended was great, terrific even. We didn't call each other at all during the time apart (because I told him I didn't like talking on the phone) but we always scheduled to meet each other online and chat as well as email each other at least once a week. I was not and still am not the kind of girl who needs a lot of those "you need to email me 4 times a day, 7 days a week" from the start...and maybe that was why the relationship was able to last for longer than anybody had expected. I believe in a long distance relationship, both parties need to have a realistic goal & expectation. Also, there need to be a set date of when will the long distance change into the no-more-distance relationship because it will never work without that little small glimse of hope. And the most important things of all, love and trust.

 

glad to be of any help. i just love LS, it's the greatest place to get as well as give advice on relationship.

 

 

actually, what i asked that day just to meet him , i didnt asked more than that . I didn't need he and i to be together. Just simply a last moment to remember. But anyway, i don't want to waste my time for such a guy. Since he left me with very bad impressions, i wont look back or think of giving chance in the future. he mentioned 1 -2 yrs he would be back. i don't care anymore. i don't even want to see his face anymore.

 

the thing that i couldn't agree with him is he didn't have to set a meeting with me if he thought he shouldn't meet me.Last minutes cancellation. I don't deserve that. i had told him before that i am mentally prepared that he is leaving. 3 days before he acted "weird" he said he wanted to see me but he didn't want me or him to be very sad in the end of the day.

 

*sigh*.... i wont give a damn anymore..

btw.. thanks for your feedback...