Five Ways to Overcome Shyness

[adrian1113]

Hello, My name is Adrian. I'm 31 years old, and write dating articles. Today's subject is "Five ways to overcome shyness"

As in any instance, shyness may always take a good opportunity away from you. The lack of courage to move further makes anyone a short step away from their respective goals and success. May it be in dating men or women, or as casual as starting a conversation, you should overcome shyness by practicing various tips to improve self-esteem.

There are incredible numbers of books which discuss different ways and techniques to get rid of shyness. Some are even authored by famous psychologists and influential personalities such as Dr. Phil. However, empowering the self may not always involve a complex task. You may even start from basics before you move on to the more introspective details.

This article discusses five simple techniques to gain confidence. Of course, these are not exactly the quick-fix types of solution, so these may require time and rigorous practice. But, if at stake here are courage and confidence in achieving your goals, then these might be worth a try.

The first thing you can do is to be assertive. Not many of us are aware of it, but self-assertion can affect the way you feel about yourself. When you say “I feel terrific” several times every morning, it may instinctively promote a positive feeling. Others may doubt it, but positively reinforcing the subconscious part of you really helps set a good mindset and affirms yourself with just the right thoughts.

The second thing to remember is to dress up. Dressing up may be a superficial technique to improve confidence. But it's already a given fact that once you look nice, you'll also feel good. A good sense of fashion or a very comfortable attire may also eliminate thoughts of insecurity when mingling with the crowd.

Third, bear in mind that fear is simply inevitable. We may not fully get rid of it but we can always manage anxiety when we do, or at least, attempt to conquer the risks. Trying things you've never done before may give you the courage to face even the most blistering of all emotions-- rejection. Most, if not all, despise the feeling of rejection because it makes us feel rejected or inadequate. But, in truth, rejection has a lot to do with people's preference and goals.

The fourth tip is simple: be honest. Sometimes, the only way to combat shortcomings is to be honest about it. Admitting that you're shy can help people understand you more. Honesty can also dismiss possible unjust perceptions about your behavior.

The last technique to consider is to stay active. Unknown to many, shyness starts from physical and emotional tension. To prevent tension and release trapped energies, it's advisable to engage in exciting personal activities.

Overcoming shyness requires personal commitment to these tips. As long as you don't waver in your commitment, you can uncover ways to use your own courage and strength and get to attract and receive more favorable responses from people. When you can really attest that you have done your best, you may be well on the way to becoming the new Mister or Miss Congeniality.

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Do no hesitate to let me know what you think of this article

[roxy_1980]

As a lifelong introvert, I find your advice offensive.

 

Tips 1 and 3 are the same tip more or less. You're basically saying "just get over it".

 

Tip 5 basically says that we are depressed.

 

We introverts may not approach life the way extroverts do. We are more conservative about our formation of relationships, but those relationships are just as valid.

[Guest]

roxy your silly

i like his article

saying that your terrific in the morning is not the same thing as trying new things

the 5th step doesnt say shy people are depressed

[Lights]

Roxy, that user is a spambot.

[bluescreenlife]

word up to roxy. I don't see much helpful advice here, dude's just plugging his website. except for the bit about shyness being a form of tension, that's pretty true.

 

I've battled shyness my whole life and have it pretty much beat. And it's all about being yourself. Plus not really caring what people think of you - there will always be more people, and if someone doesn't like you it's not you, it's just the combination. I really think that when you meet someone, anyone, a wholly unique combination comes into play that goes beyond each of you as individuals. it's like harmony between two notes. and finding a good relationship is all about the combination, more so than the individual people.

 

I don't think it's true that shyness equals low self-esteem either. it can yes, but so can the other extreme of talking to everyone non-stop trying to get them to like you. introvert or extrovert, we all have the potential to be happy and proud of who we are.

[tanbark813]

Dr. Tanbark's Patented Technique for Overcoming Shyness:

 

Step 1: Take 6 shots of Southern Comfort.