insomnie Posted November 28, 2006 Posted November 28, 2006 I hung out with that boyfriend that broke up with me two weeks ago yesterday. I tried avoiding talking about the relationship, but he initiated a conversation that kind of creeped me out. He told me that basically, he thinks almost all girls are golddiggers. Especially the attractive ones. That money is the biggest criteria most girls have for a relationship, and for that reason he didn't plan to date after college. He said that if he and I or he and his xgf from high school didn't get married, he woudln't get married at all. Because, again, all women are golddiggers and he would always wonder why anyone he met after college was with him. This guy does not have any female friends, and at many points in our relaitonship he would make gender-based assumptions (Oh, all girls like to shop because you're gatherers.) I always assumed he was kind of kidding but now I'm starting to realize he has some issues with women. I don';t know if we are getting back togheter or not, but I did have sex with him and spend the night. Two mistakes. Now I'm left wondering if/when he will call, and what to do about the whole situation. Does it sound like he has problems? And, what would you do in my situation, as someone who got dumped that wants to get back together, maybe on different terms?
Green Posted November 29, 2006 Posted November 29, 2006 sounds like you like him, I say as long as he doesnt directly point his critisisms at you see how things play out.
Woggle Posted November 29, 2006 Posted November 29, 2006 I am a misogynist and I treat my wife very well. The overwhelming majority of women hate men so I feel that I am just hating them back.
burning 4 revenge Posted November 29, 2006 Posted November 29, 2006 I am a misogynist and I treat my wife very well. The overwhelming majority of women hate men so I feel that I am just hating them back. do they hate men in general? sometimes i get the feeling that they just hate me specifically. all of them.
Woggle Posted November 29, 2006 Posted November 29, 2006 do they hate men in general? sometimes i get the feeling that they just hate me specifically. all of them. They hate men in general. If men knew how much women hated us we would all be misogynists. That is why I have the mentality that I do. Why should I respect somebody who thinks I am a piece of scum because of what body parts I was born with.
burning 4 revenge Posted November 29, 2006 Posted November 29, 2006 They hate men in general. If men knew how much women hated us we would all be misogynists. That is why I have the mentality that I do. Why should I respect somebody who thinks I am a piece of scum because of what body parts I was born with. believe me, they would hate you worse if those hated parts didn't work
Pyro Posted November 29, 2006 Posted November 29, 2006 I hung out with that boyfriend that broke up with me two weeks ago yesterday. I tried avoiding talking about the relationship, but he initiated a conversation that kind of creeped me out. He told me that basically, he thinks almost all girls are golddiggers. Especially the attractive ones. That money is the biggest criteria most girls have for a relationship, and for that reason he didn't plan to date after college. He said that if he and I or he and his xgf from high school didn't get married, he woudln't get married at all. Because, again, all women are golddiggers and he would always wonder why anyone he met after college was with him. This guy does not have any female friends, and at many points in our relaitonship he would make gender-based assumptions (Oh, all girls like to shop because you're gatherers.) I always assumed he was kind of kidding but now I'm starting to realize he has some issues with women. I don';t know if we are getting back togheter or not, but I did have sex with him and spend the night. Two mistakes. Now I'm left wondering if/when he will call, and what to do about the whole situation. Does it sound like he has problems? And, what would you do in my situation, as someone who got dumped that wants to get back together, maybe on different terms? Geez, what a sourpuss. It must be depressing hanging out with someone who is as bitter as he is about you and the rest of the females. I can't see why you would want to get back together with him if he feels that way about women. He should get rid of that hate before you even think about trying to work things out with him. Isn't this the immature guy that ignored your phone calls and canceled plans with you so he could hang out with his friends?
norajane Posted November 29, 2006 Posted November 29, 2006 Why is he so worried? Has he got millions stashed away? Sounds like it wouldn't be too hard to have him if you want him - it's just you and that other ex of his from high school. It seems she's your only competion for his hand in marriage.
ddnnee Posted November 29, 2006 Posted November 29, 2006 i think the same way as he does. Yea, girls are total gold diggers. he is a wise person to see it while most guys don't see it. ok, some girls aren't gold diggers because they are already married to a doctor, but they crave large diks. though i dislike female games, i still respect them. even my sister agrees that girls are gold diggers.
InsanityImpaired Posted November 29, 2006 Posted November 29, 2006 Does it sound like he has problems? Yes. Major ones at that. And, what would you do in my situation, as someone who got dumped that wants to get back together, maybe on different terms? From an older thread, "How can we work this out?" I've tried talking to him but he hates those conversations. They are the source of HIS stress/unhappiness with the relaitonship.... he thinks I am hard to please/confrontational. He wants me to "just be happy". I'm very happy in my life overall actually, but kind of stuck in a rut with him. This gives the impression that he is happy to be in a relationship, as long as he does not have to deal with the negative (talking, being there for you) consequences. Yet the positives (sex) he does not mind, at least when it suits him. There are tons of issues. Partly yours, partly his. Definitely not get back together at least for now. If he feels that those generalizations are justified, he may well defend his own unacceptable (in your eyes) behavior with another set of generalizations. If he thinks he has done nothing wrong, or is not willing to address his issues seriously, getting back together is a terrible idea.
DanielMadr Posted November 29, 2006 Posted November 29, 2006 As long as he is OK around you, you dont have to worry. Prove him wrong by your example We men hear 'Men are pigs, jerks, wussies' all the time...Oprah, every second chick flick etc. Problem is he doesnt get that Most of PEOPLE are GOLDIGGERS, PIGS etc. He doesnt have to whine about it. If you are some kind of feminista...please let him know....it can get messy )
someone2 Posted November 29, 2006 Posted November 29, 2006 I think calling him misogynist is a little bit extreme. He is just a chauvinist, not that this is a good thing, but it is slightly better There is the other chance that he is just immature. How old is he? He can change his ideas as he grows up. I dunno. I know someone who is like that, and he treats his wife like dirt. You need to be careful.
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