Guest Posted November 28, 2006 Posted November 28, 2006 I found a girl that was great after looking for a 'real' thing for a while, but she was at what became the end of an emotionally (not physically) abusive relationship. She dumped him for me and we got together and had a few months of honeymoon. Then she dumped me because she said I wasn't emotionally supportive (true). We were back together unofficially like 3 weeks later. Eventually I got sick of it and forced her to be offically together again... which lasted a month; she dumped me again with very bad excuses. We still slept together for one more month, and then I spent 3 months just being her close friend and showing her how much I cared for her (I still do care). Since she dumped me the first time she had a crush on another guy who just wanted sex (it never happened though), so when she found this out, a month later she was sleeping with me again, but not "with me" officially. After that she had a crush on another guy who turned to be a drug addict, so she came back to me emotionally again, but not physically this time. A month later she decided she was going to get back with her ex-boyfriend (the abusive one!) because she had been really "missing" him. My point is, of course, what the heck?! How could she go back with him after she had to go to the police to let them know he had been following her around after their breakup? I mean, if you want more abuse stories, ask away, but from what I could gather back then and her friends, he was a pretty bad guy. But she said she had been missing him for a while now and THUS he MUST be "the one". When she told me all this she sounded SO convinced that he is her true love and whatnot. Anyhow, I decided to cut off all contact with her... not just to FINALLY move on (we NEVER stopped talking every day, even when we broke up)... but to let her realise that I wasn't just "a friend" in her life. I am trying to move on and leave her in the past, but to be honest, I really feel like they don't belong together and I wouldn't want her to get hurt again, and I would like to get some input on this... they didn't even talk for over a year, but he was abusive... will that ever change? She thinks it will and is in a honeymoon stage right now... and in a way I would like her to contact me in a few months and tell me she made a mistake... for my own interest... but really... I wouldn't want her to go through all that again! Although there is nothing I can do, she is going with it and begged me not to tell her what I thought of it, which I agreed to. Enough rant. Are they gonna last? haha some question... and, what should I do? Is cutting off ALL contact the right thing to do? I want to get my peace in my life back... and this has been a very rough ride for a really long time. I wouldn't want her to realise his ex was abusive after all and just go back to me as consolation. But I also think that we really had something, even if she let it go... her friends and sister even told me a few times that they had never seen her so in love... and when we broke up she said she had never been so upset over a breakup (which includes the abusive guy who is now with her again). I am just worried she is an a cycle of abuse and I am the one suffering over her. What do you think?
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