London Girl Posted November 28, 2006 Posted November 28, 2006 Ex dumps me in Jan, we see each other including as FWB since then. Last time I saw him was 3 weeks ago which he instigated. Today is my birthday, he sends me a birthday card signing it with "with love and best wishes" and he phones me at 10 pm but I did not answer the phone, he left me with a message wishing me a happy birthday. I feel really upset as I really thought my ex was planning something for my birthday esp. since he mentioned about my birthday a month ago, I'm upset by the message he put in my card, "and best wishes" with no kisses or anything - I interpret that as being quite formal and him calling me until 10 pm! He had the whole day to call me. Last year he took me away for my birthday and he always writes romantic messages in my birthday cards. What do you guys think? Am I'm being over sensitive here? I don't think I could carry on like this and I've been so miserable today. I feel heartbroken all over again.
melodymatters Posted November 28, 2006 Posted November 28, 2006 Sweetie, not sure what to advise, he doesn't sound very kind from what you wrote. I mainly wanted to say HAPPY BIRTHDAY, cause it's mine too and I am having a terrible couple of months, but I have decided that next year will be terrific !! take care, and good luck !!!
dahling Posted November 28, 2006 Posted November 28, 2006 You have to remember he's your ex and you guys aren't together anymore. He's not going to do the same things to you on your birthday as he would when you guys were dating I feel heartbroken all over again. thats what happens when you're FWB with an ex oh and Happy Birthday :]
Krying Posted November 29, 2006 Posted November 29, 2006 I can relate to this. It's my birthday next week and I am dreading it unlike any other in recent years. As far as your ex calling you late and being formal in his card, I have to ask what is your relationship with him? Ex's don't normally do this kind of stuff anyways. Are you hoping to get back with him? Did he leave or you did?
Author London Girl Posted November 29, 2006 Author Posted November 29, 2006 thanks for the birthday wishes and happy birthday to you too Melodymatters. So here I am 3am typing this as I'm too upset to sleep. I've spent of the night crying. I know I have no one to blame but myself for allowing my ex treat me the way he has. Krying, my ex left me in January and yes I spent most of this year hoping he will come back. I know we are not together anymore but I thought only seeing him 3 weeks ago after not seeing him for 2 months and with him taking me out for dinner, cinema and inviting me to his nephew's birthday party as well as seeing him on and off during most of this year, I would have thought he would have made a little more effort on my birthday. Even if rang me during the day or afternoon and not 10 pm at night. And I just cannot get my head round his formal birthday message in my card esp. as we went out for 2 years.
hollywood24 Posted November 29, 2006 Posted November 29, 2006 Maybe it's time to have a talk with him about where this relationship is going? Because you guys either need to get back together officially, or you need to break it off for good.
Author London Girl Posted November 29, 2006 Author Posted November 29, 2006 I have already asked him Hollywood24 in August and he told me that perhaps he is not a ready for a serious relationship (he's 34) and that if the feeling for him has gone in the relationship, how could he get it back if he gave us a second chance. So I tell him that I will move on. But since they he has instigated all the meeting up/contact. I just don't understand him.
Author London Girl Posted November 29, 2006 Author Posted November 29, 2006 also my question now is, should I thank him for his birthday card or return his phone call or shall I just blank him? And what shall I do if he emails me or calls me again.
alphamale Posted November 29, 2006 Posted November 29, 2006 also my question now is, should I thank him for his birthday card or return his phone call or shall I just blank him? And what shall I do if he emails me or calls me again. no you shouldn't LG...mainly cause you two are not an "official" couple anymore. you should look for other boys to date.
Quinch Posted November 29, 2006 Posted November 29, 2006 Lock him out and move on. He knew it was your birthday and if he cared about you he would have made more effort. Make today the day yesterday should have been :bunny:
magichands Posted November 29, 2006 Posted November 29, 2006 Lock him out and move on. He knew it was your birthday and if he cared about you he would have made more effort. Make today the day yesterday should have been :bunny: Great post, oh wise one.
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