Guest Posted November 28, 2006 Posted November 28, 2006 i shaking and i dont know what to do i cant believe it. I broke up with my boyfriend 4 weeks ago and ive been feeling really bad about it, u loved him but he had so many psychological issues it was unbelievable, i didnt trust him anymore he always had to lie about the slightest thing, he was always so sweet though it broke my heart to break his. I had his password for this myspace sort of website and i had written him telling him i loved him and he hadnt answered back, i wondered if he had read it so i logged on. He has been writing this girl from back home he has known since school. Which is fine its his life but i thought that when i left him he would realize how bad lying is. A week ago he came by and said he couldnt deal any more he wanted back with me and i said no. The whole time he had been writing this girl telling her HE had brokenup with me coz he was tired of my S..... and he had moved out and hopefully i wasnt that upset. Hes doing it again, hes lying to someone else already and i was with this looser for 2 years thinking he was a sweet confused boy. Theyve agreed to meet in december and hes already playing it like he did with me, writing her constantly and being all understanding. Im jsut so shocked, how could he say he wanted back with me that he was nothing without me and then tell other people he had had enough of me and dumped me. To make matters worse, i told him yesterday that bills had arrivedthat we wouldve had to pay, he said he would sort it out i told him i was scared and he said he would come over we needed to talk. He never came and he hasnt contacted me since then. I s he going to leave me with all these bills? that cant happen, please god he can not turn out to be like that, i would never do that to anyone, anyone and i always believed he was a good person, always even after i broke up with him i hurt deeply. What if he turns out to be a coward that runs off and never shows face again? comes back in january with a new girlfriend, badmouthing me. I cant believe my eyes have been opened like this, i think i wouldve rather not read the email. Him telling me hes short for money and hes barely gonna have money for xmas presents and him telling her hes saving up so he can have tons to party with. i wish i hadnt read that, i dont think i can deal i cant stop crying, my first love man, how can this be happening?
2020vision Posted November 29, 2006 Posted November 29, 2006 Hello there... My first love was and still is a total crap bag. I snooped while we were together and found crap like what you found and snooped after we broke up. Everytime I would do it I would be shocked and upset that I was with such scum. I know it hurts...BAD. But you have to move on from this creep. Seriously, you will get through it. Its been a year since my break up, and yes, at times I feel down about the whole thing but for the most part I am healed now. You deserve someone who does not lie to you and talk crap about you to another girl....YUCK! Good Luck- 2020
ok...now what? Posted November 29, 2006 Posted November 29, 2006 Yes, that sucks that someone you cared for is lying about you behing your back, but that's what you get for going into someone's personal crap. Let him tell people whatever he wants to get through his rejection, i think you might be more hurt if he told people the truth in intimate detail. I find your snooping to be more disgusting than his lying. I understand why people might do it, hell even i have thought about it, but I wouldn't do it. The thought of what I might find keeps me from doing it.
daphne Posted November 29, 2006 Posted November 29, 2006 2020, I'm sorry to hear that you've found out that your ex was far from prince charming. He sounds very young. And very very stupid. The bad news is that you trusted him and he disappointed you. The good news is you don't have to deal with him and find this out later when you're married. I have found that the true test of a person's character is during the breakup process. You find out just how nice they are and how much they really cared about you at that time. Or in more cases, you find out that they're very selfish and once they no longer love you they don't care how they treat you. It can be very sad. You sound like a good person. Don't let this set you back. Heal, move on and find someone worth your time. I guarantee your ex is not.
Green Posted November 29, 2006 Posted November 29, 2006 shouldnt have snooped, for shame, and hes not total scum he could be worse, he could have actualy cheated on you. Well we all deserve better so enjoy the fact that you are now a wiser person, just dont become a bitter person.
lsmith76 Posted November 30, 2006 Posted November 30, 2006 I could tell you stories about my ex that would make yours look wonderful... Mine had a cell phone for a whole month and I didnt know about it until his cousin called me and asked for the number....wow. and lets not even talk about my birthday.
Guest Posted November 30, 2006 Posted November 30, 2006 he called me yesterday and i was sick, he said if i hadnt broken up qith him he would be there taking care of me i said oh so if i were really really sick u wouldnt come and he said well yeah then he would come. He asked me if i was eating well and told me he didnt want to see me at all coz it hurt so much. I said i respected that but could we talk about the bills. He said he would get in touch with me. He sounded so cold, i thought he would be more worried about me being sick. He must be hurting a lot and resenting so i guess ill have to understand huhu?
Trialbyfire Posted November 30, 2006 Posted November 30, 2006 Yes, that sucks that someone you cared for is lying about you behing your back, but that's what you get for going into someone's personal crap. Let him tell people whatever he wants to get through his rejection, i think you might be more hurt if he told people the truth in intimate detail. I find your snooping to be more disgusting than his lying. I understand why people might do it, hell even i have thought about it, but I wouldn't do it. The thought of what I might find keeps me from doing it. Then you're only fooling yourself. As for snooping, gut instinct is usually right so it sounds like she listened to it.
Ok...now what?? Posted December 4, 2006 Posted December 4, 2006 Then you're only fooling yourself. As for snooping, gut instinct is usually right so it sounds like she listened to it. Look, we'll agree to disagree on that, I just feel that going through somebody else's private messages or e-mails or phone or anything after you dumped them is an awful thing to do. What purpose did it serve? And what was really learned here? I am not defending lying about the ex, but come on. He isn't scum, by the way, he is actually just really immature. Be a bigger person and stop reading his e-mails and walk away.
Mary3 Posted December 5, 2006 Posted December 5, 2006 I don't advocate snooping into someone's email but in this case this poor girl was lead to believe so much and to find out he's lying. If anything it speeds her recovery into finding out what he * really * is like and to not be so trusting the next time. Curious : Did you meet this guy on the internet ?
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