crazygirl12 Posted November 28, 2006 Posted November 28, 2006 Hi, I really need some words of support. Anything would be good. Well I have been in yoyo relationship for about 2yrs now. He has cheated on me, lied to me. He even slept with another girl in our house when I was asleep. We broke up recently- well about 3months ago, I have done so well but I have screwed it all up. I saw him out in a club and he said he needed to talk to me. He told me the usual he loves me etc,... I fell for it hook, line and sinker, eneded up spending the night together and he said he would call and he didn't I got an e-mail 2days later, saying it shouldn't of happend, and he misses me sometimes but if so much happier without me and also how he always remembers the bad time. The only bad time were him cheating on me, he blames me for everything. so I have been used, he always comes running back and then goes. And I am left feeling worthless. can anyone send me some words of wizdom, anyone been in a situation like this? will he ever get his just desserts. Sorry to go on, but I can honestly say i thought i was getting over him till I did this stupis thing xxx:eek:
gonetildecember Posted November 28, 2006 Posted November 28, 2006 Take it from someone who has had a pretty rough last six months (you can search some of my posts regarding my situation) I can understand how down you feel. My ex was still very closely tied to his ex girl friend when he began dating me and all throughout our relationship and lied to me about it, and to make this worse...when I was the one who should have been hurt and wanted space... he said he wanted to go on a break because he doesn't know if he wants a girlfriend. I'll admit what you did was based purely on emotion, you weren't thinking, but when you get caught up in your feelings, you do stupid things. I do it time and time again, and sometimes I think that maybe if I could just FORGET all the good times, I could find the strength to get myself together and finally LEAVE for good, and not go back when he decides to call after two weeks of ignoring me. I've been NC since Friday (isnt too long, but for me its a big thing) and I'm trying my hardest not to fall back into it, because I know that if I can just get out there, meet some new people and try to put my feelings aside, until I can emotionally get over everything that has happened to me in the last few months- I'll be fine. I know I deserve better than what he can give me right now- or at least what he's offering, and you deserve better too. At the end of a breakup we usually get into the mentality that we NEED that person and that we'll never find anyone else to love like we loved then, but even tho i still kind of feel that way now about him, i was there before and I did get over it, so you can too. It just takes time and believing that you can. In your situation I would tell you to go NC, if you see him out ignore him, don't write him, email him, call him and if he calls you- ignore it. Because he used you, he knew you would fall for it, and you did and he will try again. We have to start standing up for ourselves, and if things do change and he shows and EFFORT that he wants to change and is ready to commit to you (thats if you even want him at the point), make him prove it to you. I have faith in the fact that what goes around comes around, maybe not when we want it to or right away, but he'll feel it. Especially if he sees you looking great and happy with someone else. "People change, but rarely with those who impose the lesson" Hope that helped a bit, try not to be so hard on yourself, we all have minor setbacks- its learning from your mistakes that makes us stronger!
greyskies Posted November 28, 2006 Posted November 28, 2006 The guy I was with totally disrespected me and even had the nerve to tell me to be quiet one time while he talked to his ex right in fron tof me. I was freaking mad and we were going through a drive through at the time and once we got out food I said take me to the room Ill grab my stuff and u can take me home. He proceeded to tell me he did not want to see her. Blah Blah Blah. after we left the room the next morning her went straight to a room with her afterwards. I still wanted to see him to be with him and everything. I feel like a complete loser. The gurl he is cheating with is fuggly as hell and twice my age. like 55. Thats so messed up for me because he basically he was going to try and make it work woth her. I gave him my blessing and turned and walked away. Shattered broken and torn but alive. he then called me later and said are you alright I was like no but I will be. He said well its not going to work for her and I. I was like are u okay. he said yes im going to store brb. He calls me two hours later and starts screaming at me to stay the f away from him he doesnt have any feeling for me at all. Dont call him nor contact him fo nothing and hangs up. I freaked out made a complete idiot of myself. He completely ios blaming me for his wanting to break up with me. Said I threatened him on his exs phone. Completely a lie. Im beside myself with heart break and pain. Bastards!!!! :mad: :mad: :sick: :(
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