moman Posted November 28, 2006 Posted November 28, 2006 Friends, need your advice on this.... A girl I have been seeing for a while now (4 months) and I have a deep connection (or so I thought). Our relationship has been so/so but the other night we were together and had sex for the first time. The sex was her idea. I already knew that she has issues with an ex-boyfriend and I accepted them as such and didn't get too emotionally involved. We have had previous problems and if you do a search under my username you will see the threads. Now that we have slept together she feels that it was a mistake. She doesn't want to be in contact with me while she sorts through her emotions which is fair. But the problem is, how do I respond to her? She had enough respect for me to be honest with the issue and write me an email but should I respond in kind? She doesn't want contact until she figures out where she stands but I should at least acknowledge that correct? In all honesty, I am head over heels for this girl and it hurts severely to know that some past fling is keeping us apart. I do respect her wishes and will move on if necessary. Here's my two proposed responses: 1) Tell her that I respect her wishes and to contact me when/if she is ready 2) Tell her that I strongly feel for her and feel that I have lost a best friend and that I would give ANYTHING to reverse time, but that it was not a mistake because it was love. Thoughts?
Author moman Posted November 28, 2006 Author Posted November 28, 2006 Thanks, that is the route I am leaning. I will add that I have met her family and friends and we all hit it off well. There have been times that she has gone cold and snapped out of it in a day or two, but this is the first time that she has gone to the extent to tell me to let her be for a time.
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