Guest Posted November 28, 2006 Posted November 28, 2006 i'm engaged to this wonderful man whom i really love, but lately i'm finding many of his habits incredibly annoying. little things, like the terms he uses and the way he whistles and the little songs he sings, just get on my nerves. we've had a great relationship, but what if this means we aren't meant to get married? so many things about us go well together, but some of the things he does just irk me, and i don't want to point everything out to him, because it seems like that would be unproductive. you would think we would be happy, but it's these little things that just drive me up the wall....
norajane Posted November 30, 2006 Posted November 30, 2006 It's often the little things that add up and destroy a relationship - I think you should be paying attention to the little things. Is there any other reason why you might be uncertain about your relationship? Is there an underlying issue you two haven't faced? Something that you are in disagreement about but aren't talking about? I know in my past relationships when the little things have gotten on my nerves and he can't do anything right, that means I've fallen out of love with him. It's possible to get it back, but not always.
Rooster_DAR Posted November 30, 2006 Posted November 30, 2006 i'm engaged to this wonderful man whom i really love, but lately i'm finding many of his habits incredibly annoying. little things, like the terms he uses and the way he whistles and the little songs he sings, just get on my nerves. we've had a great relationship, but what if this means we aren't meant to get married? so many things about us go well together, but some of the things he does just irk me, and i don't want to point everything out to him, because it seems like that would be unproductive. you would think we would be happy, but it's these little things that just drive me up the wall.... Well it's normal for things to get annoying about a partner in a LTR. I think you need to understand that someone is not going to be perfect and they are going to have things that bother you, and you are going to have things that bother him. If you start nitpicking them, and not just accept them then I think the issue is more with you. This is where communication comes in, and you both should make a list of things that may annoy you so you can both try to remedy them. Regards,
VandGsMom Posted November 30, 2006 Posted November 30, 2006 I am a big advocate of listening to that little voice in your heart that tells you when something is not right... Call it womens intuition, call it conscience, fate, etc; but when people start to question the fundamental aspects of a relationship (should we still be together), I think that the time to think about your decision is past and maybe if you look hard enough inside yourself you will see that you already made the decision. My two bits... take it or leave it.
whichwayisup Posted November 30, 2006 Posted November 30, 2006 If you can't live with those annoying habits now, just fast forward 10 years or so, throw kids in the mix, daily life stresses, and inlaws. How do you think you'll feel then? Talk to him about what you're feeling inside. Maybe he can try to not be as annoying??? hehe, I know that sounds dumb, but sometimes people don't know until they're told. But, if you really love him and it's just the annoying habits that are getting to you, maybe some couples counselling could help.
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