Guest Posted November 28, 2006 Posted November 28, 2006 I have been with my boyfriend for over a year and we attend different colleges 1000 miles away from each other. We see each other when we can visit...which isnt too often, around 2 days every month or so. It has taken its toll on me emotionally. The distance is so hard and puts so much stress on our relationship. We miss each other so much it is almost unbearable at times. It makes it very hard for me to concentrate on my schoolwork. It is also difficult for us around our other friends at school because we both do not go out and party. We have discussed the idea of me transferring to his school. Of course I know there are pros and cons and the big what if we break up. However, it is definitely a risk I am willing to take. I dont think its fair for either of us to be so miserable all throughout college, but we love each other very much and breaking up is absolutely not an option. We will either suffer it out or I will transfer and we will both hopefully be able to finally be happy at school and so much stress will be taken off our relationship. I would still like to hear opinions on transferring though, or any advice for the adjustment especially when it comes to adjusting to being able to see each other whenever we want just because weve spent our whole first year together long distance and whenever i see him i can be overly possessive since we hardly see each other and I know this cannot go on when the situation changes and we are no longer in a long distance relationship. Thanks!
ShoeGirl Posted November 29, 2006 Posted November 29, 2006 I was in a LDR for 2.5 years, we were 300 miles apart during the school year and we spent summers in the same city, but it wasn't that bad because I grew up in that city so I had friends and family there, if you do transfer... as far as adjusting I am sure it will be harder on you than on him because you are moving to where he has lived for the last year, he already has a life there, so realize that everything he does will not stop once you get there. You should probably start doing something when you get there that is just yours, something without him, give him time to hang out with his friends and time for you to meet new friends. One other comment about transferring, before you decide what to do look at what the classes that you have already taken at your school will transfer as at his school. This is especially true if one of you go to a private school. I am not sure what else to say... if you have more specific questions then maybe I could give you a better answer. Good luck with the move if you decide to go. Make sure he is involved with the decision, it is as much about him as it is about you
magichands Posted November 29, 2006 Posted November 29, 2006 , he already has a life there, so realize that everything he does will not stop once you get there. You should probably start doing something when you get there that is just yours, something without him, give him time to hang out with his friends and time for you to meet new friends. Great advice, ShoeGirl. You're way smarter than your shoes look. Make sure he is involved with the decision, it is as much about him as it is about you Priceless!
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