waitingforlove Posted November 28, 2006 Posted November 28, 2006 Hi everyone, You might think this is a stupid question, but I really don't know the answer for sure, so please help if you would! I just started "going out" with a guy. He's nice. But he said we would say we were "going out" instead of "dating," and it's pretty confusing to me. Does anyone know what the difference is between the two? Also, if you say you're "going out" with someone, does it make him/her your boyfriend/girlfriend? Or is that more of a "casual" word that might not lead to anywhere? When do you know that someone is your "boyfriend/girlfriend"? Do they have to tell you explicitly? I'm really confused ... please help! Thanks a lot in advance!
LucreziaBorgia Posted November 28, 2006 Posted November 28, 2006 But he said we would say we were "going out" instead of "dating" He's basically saying that he enjoys your company and enjoys taking you out but doesn't want you to get the idea that he is ready for any sort of commitment yet. 1. Also, if you say you're "going out" with someone, does it make him/her your boyfriend/girlfriend? 2. Or is that more of a "casual" word that might not lead to anywhere? 3. When do you know that someone is your "boyfriend/girlfriend"? 4. Do they have to tell you explicitly? 1. No. It just means you go out on dates and spend time together. 2. Its more of a casual thing. Going out = dating - commitment. 3. When you get signs of commitment from the other person - intro to family, being included in future plans, etc. 4. It would sure help, eh?
nicki Posted November 28, 2006 Posted November 28, 2006 To me, "going out" with someone means more than "dating." But, you need to ask HIM for clarification. Just tell him that you love being with him and you are wondering what he means by "going out." Tell him what you it means to you.....get the discussion rolling. Tell him what you want in terms of you two. By talking, you'll avoid a lot of trouble down the road. He may think "going out" means exclusivity. Someone else might think it means "dating several people." So, ask him. No one else but him can give you the right answer. ANd he'll appreciate you being straightforward.
theadventure50120 Posted November 28, 2006 Posted November 28, 2006 Hi everyone, You might think this is a stupid question, but I really don't know the answer for sure, so please help if you would! I just started "going out" with a guy. He's nice. But he said we would say we were "going out" instead of "dating," and it's pretty confusing to me. Does anyone know what the difference is between the two? Also, if you say you're "going out" with someone, does it make him/her your boyfriend/girlfriend? Or is that more of a "casual" word that might not lead to anywhere? When do you know that someone is your "boyfriend/girlfriend"? Do they have to tell you explicitly? I'm really confused ... please help! Thanks a lot in advance! They do have to ask you out to be bf/gf otherwise i can be a bf to someone famous and going out for me is bf/gf , but if he hasn't asked you out yet then your not his gf. Ask him how he feels about you.
dahling Posted November 28, 2006 Posted November 28, 2006 The way i hear people using those terms today, 'going out' and dating' mean pretty much the same thing to me but the best thing to do it to ask him.
Poboy Posted November 28, 2006 Posted November 28, 2006 going out = casual fun stuff dating = serious fun stuff ( hope so )
TYASAFAHICSI Posted November 28, 2006 Posted November 28, 2006 ANd he'll appreciate you being straightforward. Wrong---guys hat to talk about relationships! But that is not to say you should not ask him. Just say, so is it just you and me? Or can we go out with others? Be sure to use the term "we" because if you use "you" it puts him in a much superior position. "We" will get him thinking that you are not completely smitten and will go out prowling for another bf.
IpAncA Posted November 28, 2006 Posted November 28, 2006 It depends on how each person views the terms "dating" and "going out." There is so many different terms people come up with now a days that I need a program because I can't keep up. Dating going out steady bf/gf courting seeing them Make up your mind people. Which is it?
Quinch Posted November 28, 2006 Posted November 28, 2006 If you go out and then have sex then you're dating. If you don't have sex then you're only going out.
Author waitingforlove Posted November 29, 2006 Author Posted November 29, 2006 I just wanted to thank everyone for your input!! It's helpful!! I guess I shouldn't worry too much about it for now, but I'll certainly wait for a chance to clarify with him what he means. Thanks again!
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