mannette Posted November 27, 2006 Posted November 27, 2006 Hi, So, I've been dating this guy for two months. We've been seeing each other progressively. Currently e are at 3 times a week. We've been as open and honest with each other about many things. Recently he has pulled away from me. I asked him what was wrong with him and why he's pulled away and he told me it's work, it's his ex, and it's that he's realizing he needs to get rid of his baggage. He told me about his ex the second week we started seeing each other. She still calls him on occasion and is still hung up on him. They use to be best friends first and then dated each other. They had a rocky relationship. He finally ended it in May. Recently her grandma died and she's threatening suicide. He told me that he told her about me and I think this is where the suicidal thing kicks in. Anyhow, he says he needs to figure out what he wants. He's torn b/w his past two relationships. One was sexual but not emotional and the other was the opposite. He says that he still wants to see me like we have been but, needs to work through these issues. He told me that he's going to be reserving his emotions until he figures things out and that I should do the same...What do I take from this? I get that he was probably starting to fall for me and then freaked out. NOt sure if his ex is the main factor here. I had asked several weeks ago if he would consider getting back with her and he said no because he's not physically attracted to her and they have a laundry list of issues. HELP...I'm confused... Should I stop seeing him completely or do I give him some time and let him know that I’m not going to be waiting long?
Curmudgeon Posted November 28, 2006 Posted November 28, 2006 Should I stop seeing him completely or do I give him some time and let him know that I’m not going to be waiting long? That entirely depends upon what your wants, needs, desires and expectations are regarding this or any relationship. Those are questions only you can answer.
IpAncA Posted November 28, 2006 Posted November 28, 2006 Don't know. It's possible that he still does have issues with his ex and needs to get those cleared up before he moves on. If he wants space or whatnot then give it to him. You can't make him commit or anything. But like Curmudgeon said, only you can decide.
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