Smung Posted November 27, 2006 Posted November 27, 2006 Good morning all, I was thinking about what it is about “Time” that seems to change during an emotional crisis as a breakup. In my case: When my ex first dumped me, time felt like it was standing still and in some cases going backwards! I was very aware of every moment and times of the day. I would pine on what day (was it Friday and did my ex have a date?) I would go to bed early in order to not be up around 11:00 PM thinking my ex was out having a good time. This was sooo, black and white thinking as most likely my ex was sitting around her house cleaning. After awhile (about 2 months) time seemed to change back to normal but then I felt I was on a timetable. Everything was speeding up! Every minute seemed like my ex was losing all memory of me and I wanted to slow time down to avoid the inevitable. What I’m thinking and wanted opinions about was… Could it be that, actually it was part of MY moving on process. It was me first pining about the past that kept my mind in a state of denial (hence the feeling of time slowing down). Then, it was me again realizing that “I” was actually healing and moving on (hence time speeding up). And it was simple nostalgic memories about the past. Now, I find that time is my ally. Stay with me here.. People always say that everyone seems to remember the good times as apposed to the bad in relationships and that assumption could help explain why so many ex’s try and contact the person they dumped, months even years afterward. For the dumper it could be that time has leaped backward and something triggers a feeling of lose or unresolved issues. At this point YOU are in the driver’s seat and have the choice to accept the contact or not. Hopefully, you have been improving yourself, healing, and have moved on enough to handle your situation in a way that best suits you. Bottom line, is that time becomes your ally after enough time has based and the hard feelings, longing, and heart ack turn to something else. It’s very difficult no matter what others say to forget your ex’s. I know I have dumped many an ex. I remember all of the ex’s I spent a significant amount of time with. Most days I don’t think about them at all, but guess what? Time has a nasty way of bring the past to life.
demilde Posted November 27, 2006 Posted November 27, 2006 Never a good idea to have a few pints at lunchtime ;-) But I think I get what you are saying, might have a few more reads though!!!
Author Smung Posted November 27, 2006 Author Posted November 27, 2006 lol, how did you know! and it's glugg!
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