Alwaysunsure Posted November 27, 2006 Posted November 27, 2006 I need someone who doesn't know me or my friend to give me there honest opinion on this situation. I am a 24 year old girl,who has been best friends with this girl for 16 years. In the past 3 years, she has changed alot. She has started using drugs, and drinks ALOT. She has been sexually irresponsible, and has paid the price for it, on more then one occasion. I have tried to help her by telling her to be careful, and warning her of things that can happen. Lately she will ask me to hang out, or want to make plans with me, but then she will call...or worse...text message me, and tell me she cant, but give me no reason why. I'm really getting sick of it. Not to mention, everytime she meets a new friend, she forgets about me for months, and then comes back around when that person blows her off. I really feel as thought I am being used. So, I am trying to break off the "friendship" if you can even call it that anymore. Am I being ridiculous? There is alot more to the situation as well. But, if I post it all, people will not even want to read it!!
amaysngrace Posted November 27, 2006 Posted November 27, 2006 It happens that you have to let some people go in your lifetime. If someone is too high-maintenance and is draining you, then it's perfectly okay to say good-bye to them. Despite the history you have together. It may feel bad and you may feel mean or guilty, but you'll feel better in the long run.
silentalways Posted November 28, 2006 Posted November 28, 2006 For example: Two years ago, I was with the love of my life and our future looked great. Daughter was doing fine, my home was almost paid off, I had my health, I liked my job, I was writing and recording the best music of my life and I was learning how to finally deal with my demons. Here is a snapshot of my life now. The ex went to court to take daughter away and wants $800 a month in child support. Over 6 people signed afdavids in her support, and the love of my life two years hates me so much that if I just look at her she will file another report [ironic that the one person that can make a difference just by forgiving me for failing is the one person that truly hates me], I relapsed around the time my credit card and e-bay account was hacked and I had a few delusionals episodes, I have discovered that everything I worried about was just a byproduct of my addiction so now I am not only a complete fool but looked at with concern, I haven’t worked in over three months, I have health problems and my family will not have me for the holidays. I can't live in my house because of the bad memories and i am on antidepressants again. So, be kind to others - life can be rough at times
Author Alwaysunsure Posted November 28, 2006 Author Posted November 28, 2006 Thanks for the advice. I am trying to be as kind as possible. I would never hurt this girl, or be mean in any way. But, I truly feel that the one who is being mean is her, to me. As I said, we have been friends for 16 years. So, we exchange gifts every Christmas/Birthday. Today she sent me an email saying that she does not want to exchange gifts this year. Which is fine, but that says to me, that mayeb we both feel the same way about each other, and know that there really is not a friendship here anymore.
CardPlay3r Posted November 29, 2006 Posted November 29, 2006 Yeah I think you should e-mail her to cut contact with you, I mean one thing to stick by someone and try to help them quite another to be ignored and used...
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