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i don't drink but he does....is this a problem??


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hi everyone!

 

my boyfirend and i have been together for a little bit over a month. we get along great, have the same goals in life (we both own big businesses and we're only in our 20's) and we have a lot in common.

 

he acts like he likes me a lot, and i definately like him a lot. I've already met his family and close friends, and he has met mine. both went very well. he's not afraid to let it be known that we're together.

 

I have one concern.

I'm not a big drinker. I'll socially drink, maybe one or 2 when i go out if any at all.

my bf DOES drink. Even though it's socially, and not every single day (he's not an alchoholic) he does it when we go out with our friends. sometimes he gets pretty drunk. (I take care of him of course, and drive him home) and i have fun even though i don't get plastered.

 

do you guys think that he'll get rid of me because i don't get drunk with him? do you think he thinks i'm uptight because i'm the only sober person in the group? is it bad that i'm not a big drinker?

 

i need some imput on this. thanks for your time :)

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in my experience it could become a big issue if you cannot handle, or get sick of, his conduct when drunk. I dated a counselor who was essentially a tea totaler for a while, and she just could not handle the heavy drinking antics of me and my social circle. Enventually she tried to pull me away from then, and she lost.

 

If you can honestly go out and have fun with him and his social circle, and if he can honestly have fun with you and your circle, it shouldn't be an issue, because most likely he will grow out of it anyway.

 

Also, find more "fun" things to do in the morning to encourage him to not be hungover. That will help.

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do you guys think that he'll get rid of me because i don't get drunk with him?

 

If he rids you just because you don't get drunk with him then he isn't worth it. As long as you guys can have fun together and his drinking doesn't get in the way, then it should be fine.

 

I'm not a big drinker either and my bf was an alcoholic at one time and it didn't affect our relationship

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