Guest Posted November 27, 2006 Posted November 27, 2006 My husband cheated and the OW is pregnant she is married also I am hoping and praying that it is her husbands and not mine. It hurts really bad but it hurts even worse because I have been trying to get pregnant. I decided to stay and work things out and also to accept the child if it is his but I don't why he cheated and it is killing me. He delivers to her job and it is killing me to know that he is seeing her 2 days out the week, in another state. I trust him not to do it again. He has seen the hurt he put us through. He only knew the broad 2 weeks, so I am hoping its her husbands. Im I crazy for staying he seems so remorseful, he agreed to let me be apart of every decision made. I met her and she agreed to call our home and not to call my husband's cell. Then she calls one day and gets an attitude because she has rules she has to follow(calling our home). We dont need to hear from her unless something's wrong or until she gives birth. She messed with the wrong man because I will be included in every detail. I let her know that when she slept with him she slept with me.
jmargel Posted November 27, 2006 Posted November 27, 2006 I trust him not to do it again Why do you trust him? What proof do you have that he hasn't done this with other women? Is he willing to goto MC? Please read my link in my signature, it may help you out some.
Guest Posted November 27, 2006 Posted November 27, 2006 Why do you trust him? What proof do you have that he hasn't done this with other women? Is he willing to goto MC? Please read my link in my signature, it may help you out some. I do not know if this is the only woman but when I sat them both down they both said they slept together twice but the second time he could not keep his erection (guilt got to him or so he said). He was willing to go to MC but we did not pursue it. We have worked it out since then I found out in July she was pregnant but I am still coping with it. I just dont want to stay and then he starts not including me in things and saying stuff like he is going to see that child without me while he is in another state at work.
Moose Posted November 27, 2006 Posted November 27, 2006 Your best bet, toss your husband to the curb. Sorry for being so blunt, but don't you see anything wrong with this scenario??? I don't think for one second having a conversation with your husband's mistress about the child she's about to have, his incapable erection because of guilt, and accepting this other child as his.......none of this is anywhere near RATIONAL!!!
Sup Posted November 27, 2006 Posted November 27, 2006 Does her husband know, If not, I suggest that you tell him. He has every right to know what's going here.
Romeo Must Die Posted November 28, 2006 Posted November 28, 2006 If that happened to me I would be furious as hell if my husband and the xOW brought a child into this world of that affair. Lucky for me, they didnt. I wouldnt want to be family relations with the xOW because of the kids and my husband. I would be completely tormented. I'd feel so humilitated and betrayed all at the same time because she would be laughing at me and she would use the baby to manipulate Romeo and me forever and ever. I feel so sorry for you guest. I hope for your peace of mind that its not his baby.
rogermate Posted November 28, 2006 Posted November 28, 2006 You may think you will forgive him and can move on with the rest of your life...but its not that easy...I know... I have been with my husband for 6 years we got married 2 years ago...We have 2 children together...before we got married. 2 weeks before my wedding he told me he had a one night stand (after I had given birth to our 2 children)..I was devastated but what was worse she had already given birth to a child claiming it was his. I married him knowing this and thinking everything will be ok as long as her and the baby were never in his life. The DNA results came back and it was his..My life has been flipped upside down. I cry every day and my heart breaks because I now feel I share my husband with someone else. He does not have anything to do with her or the baby but the trust I had for him is gone. Also we argue all the time...but its like we still love each other but something was taken away from us...I miss what I thought we had. I'm sorry but it will never work...my husband always says he would never hurt me again but if they can do it once they can do it again..Its not worth the hassel...I'm getting the courage myself to leave...and I think you should before you bring any children into the relationship...Please think seriously..much easier to leave now...My husband is a trucky! I would neva trust another trucky in my life. You need to think strongly about your future.
reservoirdog1 Posted November 28, 2006 Posted November 28, 2006 If you don't already have kids with your H, get out of Dodge. How much of a happy relationship do you expect to be able to have with him? Especially if the OW is popping in and out of your life, with a child your H sired by her? You deserve so much better than he will ever be. Now is the time to look to the future, and figure out what's in the best interests of YOUR future happiness.
jmargel Posted November 29, 2006 Posted November 29, 2006 We have worked it out I'm sorry but you haven't. You will find out months/years from now the hurt and resentment that you still have. That this baby will be a constant reminder of what he's done to you. I highly suggest MC. They will also give you ways / suggestions on how to deal with any questions you have.
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