wellbeloved Posted November 27, 2006 Posted November 27, 2006 i have been friends with this woman for 12 years. she is one of my only friends where i currently live (i have good friends from childhood, and maintain and nurture friendships with generosity and care). this friend is incredibly selfish, to her two young children, husband, mother and grandmother...even her only sibling. it's awful and i just cant be friends with her anymore in good conscious. the problem is i really like her mom, sister, husband and my kids are friends with her children. her husband and mother and co-workers have all vented to me that her selfish behavior is wreaking havoc on their lives, but she is so manipulative that noone will stand up to her for long. if her mom complains, she doesnt let her see the granchildren. her family has enabled her and continues to enable so there is peace. what do i do? i like her family, just not her!!!!
JackJack Posted November 27, 2006 Posted November 27, 2006 Do you think she even realizes she is being selfish? Maybe shes not aware of it. Maybe she sees that what she does/says is ok in her mind? I think you could either call her out on it, or let it be and cut all ties if this bothers you. If you choose to call her out on it, and she gets mad, then perhaps she knows shes in the wrong.
amaysngrace Posted November 27, 2006 Posted November 27, 2006 I think JackJack is right. You should confront her with her bad behavior. Approach it gently with words from your heart. But be prepared for her to go on the defensive. Most people don't like to hear about their character flaws. It may get ugly.
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