demilde Posted November 27, 2006 Posted November 27, 2006 Wrote an email to my ex with some links to funny stories to try and brighten up her Monday morning; she hates them. Just about to send it but saw sense and deleted it. Been a month now and don't really get much easier, wish I could see her just for a chat cos we were good friends aswell, but I know we can't be if she gets involved with someone else. Its like a double breakup :-(
memorex1970 Posted November 27, 2006 Posted November 27, 2006 Hi, does this girl live near by, do you have to see her everyday? If the answer is no then do not contact her in any shape,way or form. You have got this far,she may reject you and you will wish you hadnt got in touch. As for her finding someone else all I can say to that is 'what you dont know you cant worry about'. Fight it friend it WILL get better and in time you will wonder why you bothered worrying yourself with this breakup. Good luck.
Author demilde Posted November 27, 2006 Author Posted November 27, 2006 No she doesn't and therefore it is very easy not to see her. As for someone new I guess its just a time thing cos my exW has someone now and that doesn't bother me at all. I will keep going with the NC stuff, with the exception of thanking for b/day present etc; as I just think its good manners.
Author demilde Posted November 27, 2006 Author Posted November 27, 2006 what is nc? No Contact. No texts, no emails no calling, no seeing them. It is supposed to do one of two things or both. It helps ou get over your ex, additionally there is a view that by not contacting them, they may start to miss you and feel that another chance may be worth it. Either way it is the best way forward, unless you really do just want to remain friends.
Green Posted November 27, 2006 Posted November 27, 2006 dont ever contact her again! contact other girls who havent broken up with you. go out and hit on girls, just do it.
freshlillies Posted November 27, 2006 Posted November 27, 2006 i know EXACTLY how you feel, i am in the same spot.......... it hurts, cant stop thinking about him... but........ must let go. good luck and be strong
mozemate Posted November 27, 2006 Posted November 27, 2006 I have had no contact with mine for coming up to four weeks..... Now then, here's the dilemma, I did this in the summer and yep sure as hell he came begging back, took him six weeks to get through to me!...now he's thrown a stupid insecurity act thing by saying we should just be mates, I know he wanted more security and wanted me to go begging and running, but you know what?, I'm not going to do that, I know he loves me, and that helps me cope. Stay NC, it'll either help you move on;or, indeed they will be in contact with you, either way it's a positive move forward for YOU....and it's you that is important now. I feel low and have days where I nearly break but don't, if it's meant to be, it will be! Stay strong, I know it's soooooooo hard, but I'm doing it and there is comfort in knowing you're not the only person going through it! Chin Up, Kxx:p
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