erika2610 Posted November 28, 2006 Posted November 28, 2006 I was just curious. After a long weekend I was thinking to myself. How many OW would get themselves involved with another MM. I vowed to myself that if this ever happened again that I would never put myself into this situtation for a second time. As much as I love my guy, I wouldnt wish wish this on anyone. Its a constant internal struggle. I actually had a friend recently tell me she has feelings for her neighbor. They are both married. I told her to bury the feelings work on her marrriage and stay away from the neighbor. So I am putting this question out there. Knowing that some of the OW on here are very much in love with their MM and to those who are out of the relationship. Would you do it again? Good God no. I would rather be single & celebate for the rest of my life. Honest to God.
Adunaphel Posted November 28, 2006 Posted November 28, 2006 I would say "never". But hey, I was saying I'd never ever get involved with a guy in a relationship until about a year ago. So I can't really know. I think it's unlikely I'd get involved with another MM. But I'd very probably get involved with this same one (who is a jerk and just looking for some ass on the side) again if he only showed some interest or started to act nicely again. Call me smart.
PoshPrincess Posted November 28, 2006 Posted November 28, 2006 But I'd very probably get involved with this same one (who is a jerk and just looking for some ass on the side) again if he only showed some interest or started to act nicely again. Call me smart. I can relate to this. I have moved on from ex-MM and am now with SG but still think that if ex-MM came calling I would be v tempted to get involved again. BUT only if he left his wife!!!! I am lucky that I can more or less avoid seeing him ever again if that's what I want. As for what KymberAnn was saying about music, I have done that whole song thing too. The romantic, lovey-dovey stuff when we were together, then through the bad times singing along to them changing the words, shouting, "Ha-****ing-ha, like you mean it!" kinda thing (yeah, manic I know!) but now I've got to the 'moving on' songs.....words like, "..in your absence I've changed my mind and someone else is sitting in your seat" and "...while you're sleeping with your pride, wishing I could hold you tight, I'll be over you and on with my life". Try not to listen to "our songs" anymore (and there were lots of them). Tell myself they meant jack at the end of the day! Of course, there's always the classic OW song - Whitney Houston, "Saving all my love for you". Ironic thinking I once listened to that thinking, "What a mug!" Trouble is, as corny as it is, those lyrics are SO spot on.
frannie Posted November 28, 2006 Posted November 28, 2006 I can absolutely categorically say I'd never get involved with another MM. Obviously if he was lying about his status, that would be another matter. But I'd never go into this situation again knowingly. NO WAY.
Meaplus3 Posted November 28, 2006 Posted November 28, 2006 Just curious because my MM is my neighbor how did you follow through with NC when you had to see him everyday? At least I have to see him everyday and it is so hard to get over him because he can just look at me and I am right back to the pain!! Hi, Just wanted to tell you I completely understand were you are coming from, MM I was involved with lives next door. How have I ended contact? Well I started by not calling him anymore. I also stopped trying to see him outside and around the neighborhood because I know when I do my feeling's would come back. If you truely want this to end before you end up so hurt and I mean SO HURT, you need to stay away from him completely! Keep busy with your kid's, your friend's, what ever it takes to keep you busy enough to not cave into him. Good luck. PM me anytime if you wish. AP:)
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