sungrl Posted November 27, 2006 Posted November 27, 2006 I was trying to reply to an old thread but it was more than 60 days old regarding signs of cheating and one mentioned the cliche lipstick on the collar. Is this a silly thing now a days? Wouldn't a guy who is smart even be more aware of this if he were cheating. Also, i once saw a straight line on my b/f's collar once. I knew it wasn't my lipgloss. I said you have a mark, and he replied it must be lipstick.(either being a quick liar trying to throw me off and basically say it was mine or that is simple how he reacted) I kind of second guessed myself and rationalized it that if it were from a girl--it would have appeared more on the shirt, like more spots or a smear rather than a straight line. But i guess it can be in any design. This occurred awhile ago. I was able to rub it in so that shows it wasnt set it in or washed. So then wouldnt it be more likely it wasn't that b/c most smart guys would have taken the shirt off don't you think? Do i wait for more concrete signs since i saw that thread?
Trialbyfire Posted November 27, 2006 Posted November 27, 2006 A straight line might be eyeliner. I would wait for more signs. If he seems to be emotionally and/or physically detaching from you, those are more better indicators of either cheating or losing interest.
Walk Posted November 27, 2006 Posted November 27, 2006 I went back and read some of your other posts, and frankly, you're extremely insecure. You post about things that I would never bat an eye at. Whether he gave you reason or not is up to you to judge. But constantly worrying about whether your bf is cheating on you is preventing you from focusing on creating a better life for yourself. April 14th: A piece of mail that was stuck in the mail box oddly. And you automatically assumed it was from a girl. April 15th: Asking how you know if someone's cheating. April 18th: Asking about signs of cheating. April 22nd: You implied that because he's tired at 11pm on a work week that he had extracurricular activities at work. May 2nd: the bf's friend sent him link to pic that he couldn't get to work, and it was of a hot chick. You said he was very intent on seeing it because he tried 3 times to get the pic to show up. May 3rd: You were worried about him going to a biker rally. May 3rd: Your bf got a laptop and you're worried he's going to look up porn and use it to hook up with past ex's and friends. May 22nd: Your bf was on a trip, you sent a text that went through at 6:30 and you're adamant he couldn't have gotten it til at least 9, so you assumed he went to screw another girl at 6:30. Nov 6th: He asked if you lost lipgloss in the car. You assumed it was some other girls lip gloss. You didn't have lipgloss on anymore. Nov 7th: Again asking about signs of cheating. Nov 7th: You think he's cheating because while on the phone he said there was construction on a road he doesn't go down usually. And then he couldn't tell you if construction was still going on, because he doesn't go that way normally. Nov 16th: You're worried he'll talk to his ex's. He admitted he once loved an exgf he was dating. And todays.... All I can say... what a crappy way to live. ALways looking for some clue, some sign that he's cheating, being dishonest. You need to focus on yourself more, less on him and what he's doing. Fill up that big hole of insecurity with some confidence in yourself. You won't leave him even though you have absolutely NO trust for him. How can you create a strong relationship when you're constantly chipping away at the foundation with all assumptions and thoughts that he's off screwing every woman in the entire planet? You don't trust him. Either find someone you can trust, or get some help so that you can learn how to trust people.
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