BenThereDunThat Posted November 27, 2006 Posted November 27, 2006 Well, it's been over 6 weeks since I've had any contact with the MM. Great! Why am I still so angry? I certainly don't miss him. There is nothing there for me to miss. There's just no there there. Facts: He's married. MARRIED He cheats on his wife He lies to his wife He has no male friends He's a dork He's a horrible writer He's phony He's shallow Me: I'm single I'm attractive I'm fun to be with I'm liked I'm loved I have no attachments I own my own home I have a good job I'm employable I'm smart and well-read I have a large capacity for love Love letter to self: So, you see, BTDT, you are the prize. Let go of the anger - you're better than this. Forgive him. He will never be truly happy. You, however, have so much more ahead of you. It's up to you to figure out what you want and work for it. But as long as you harbor this bitterness, you'll wallow in misery and you don't want that! When you are happy you truly glow and people are attracted to you. Your laughter makes people happy. Your smile lights up a room. Don't lose it. Don't let a lying cheater take it from you. He is not worthy. Allow yourself to believe that he really did love you -- but only because you are so easy to love! You are truly unique - don't ever forget that. You have a lot to offer. Thanks, LS, for letting me release my thoughts here. I debated on posting something so personal, but then I thought it would help someone else.
whichwayisup Posted November 27, 2006 Posted November 27, 2006 By doing this, you're giving yourself closure so you can move on. That's a great love letter to yourself! Believe it!
magichands Posted November 27, 2006 Posted November 27, 2006 Facts: He's married. MARRIED ... in name only. He cheats on his wife... with beautiful, intelligent women. He lies to his wife... in name only. He has no male friends... because they're not fun to sleep with. He's a dork He's a horrible writer He's phony He's shallowHe's had you. You don't sleep with just anyone, right? Stop being overly mean. Me: I'm single I'm attractive I'm fun to be with I'm liked I'm loved I have no attachments I own my own home I have a good job I'm employable I'm smart and well-read I have a large capacity for loveWhat more could anyone want??!! And if I hadn't found another pink elephant... Love letter to self: So, you see, BTDT, you are the prize. Let go of the anger - you're better than this. Forgive him. He will never be truly happy. You, however, have so much more ahead of you. It's up to you to figure out what you want and work for it. But as long as you harbor this bitterness, you'll wallow in misery and you don't want that! When you are happy you truly glow and people are attracted to you. Your laughter makes people happy. Your smile lights up a room. Don't lose it. Don't let a lying cheater take it from you. He is not worthy. Allow yourself to believe that he really did love you -- but only because you are so easy to love! You are truly unique - don't ever forget that. You have a lot to offer. Thanks, LS, for letting me release my thoughts here. I debated on posting something so personal, but then I thought it would help someone else.I think all you're missing here, is that he should be missing from this letter!!!! What is he doing anywhere in this post? He has nothing to do with anything. The past is behind you. Tomorrow is a brand new day.
lovernotafighter Posted November 27, 2006 Posted November 27, 2006 BTDT like you had said before I feel like we are doing this together! and you inspire me to keep moving! thanks for posting your thoughts...I like that - a love letter to you!! after all you should be and are the most important person,I'm glad to know you realise that. keep on swimming!
IfWishesWereHorses Posted November 27, 2006 Posted November 27, 2006 OK, BTDT, I think I'm falling in love with you! Seriously, the anger and bitterness last the longest in my opinion. They also eat you up the most but they are also real (unlike denial) and motivating. Make sure that you are able to distinguish and separate the anger and bitterness at yourself from the anger and bitterness at him. Good luck honey!
alphamale Posted November 27, 2006 Posted November 27, 2006 BTDT...you'll REALLY be over him when you don't make posts like this anymore. He's still on your mind. How much I cannot guess. It takes a long time to get over someone you had a real connection with.
Pyro Posted November 27, 2006 Posted November 27, 2006 Well, it's been over 6 weeks since I've had any contact with the MM. Great! Why am I still so angry? I certainly don't miss him. There is nothing there for me to miss. There's just no there there. Facts: He's married. MARRIED He cheats on his wife He lies to his wife He has no male friends He's a dork He's a horrible writer He's phony He's shallow Me: I'm single I'm attractive I'm fun to be with I'm liked I'm loved I have no attachments I own my own home I have a good job I'm employable I'm smart and well-read I have a large capacity for love Love letter to self: So, you see, BTDT, you are the prize. Let go of the anger - you're better than this. Forgive him. He will never be truly happy. You, however, have so much more ahead of you. It's up to you to figure out what you want and work for it. But as long as you harbor this bitterness, you'll wallow in misery and you don't want that! When you are happy you truly glow and people are attracted to you. Your laughter makes people happy. Your smile lights up a room. Don't lose it. Don't let a lying cheater take it from you. He is not worthy. Allow yourself to believe that he really did love you -- but only because you are so easy to love! You are truly unique - don't ever forget that. You have a lot to offer. Thanks, LS, for letting me release my thoughts here. I debated on posting something so personal, but then I thought it would help someone else. Thats some good writing. Keep repeating to yourself over and over that you are the prize and you deserve much better. Once you truly believe this, than he shouldn't be a factor to you anymore.
Author BenThereDunThat Posted November 27, 2006 Author Posted November 27, 2006 for all the replies, guys. It was also kind of my 'swan song' for this portion of LS. The more I read and post here, the more it's on my mind. I'm happy to help anyone, if they think that I can. Don't hesitate to PM me. But for my own sanity, I have to stay out of this section for a while. I honestly believe everything I wrote (most of the time!), it's putting it into practice that's difficult. I felt freer coming into work today than I have in a long, long time. I just really needed to figuratively let that balloon go.
Pyro Posted November 27, 2006 Posted November 27, 2006 for all the replies, guys. It was also kind of my 'swan song' for this portion of LS. The more I read and post here, the more it's on my mind. I'm happy to help anyone, if they think that I can. Don't hesitate to PM me. But for my own sanity, I have to stay out of this section for a while. I honestly believe everything I wrote (most of the time!), it's putting it into practice that's difficult. I felt freer coming into work today than I have in a long, long time. I just really needed to figuratively let that balloon go. You are making progress. No one said that you will get passed all that over night. It does take time, but you are a fighter and I give you props for that.
puddleofmud Posted November 28, 2006 Posted November 28, 2006 I so much enjoyed your post and am so happy for you that you are doing as well as you are able as I am praying for you at your every little step forward. YES, yes, yes, every little thing you do and are is majic and I am so very happy to hear that from you as well as to know you feel it. Congrats, baby doll, on a six week anniversary that is about your healing even if you are comparing things to what "was", because as you have done so you are walking the path of what "is" and what "can be". I wish you majic and wonder and love and lust for the life you know so whole-heartedly pursue. Keep up the great work, Hugs to you!
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