insomnie Posted November 27, 2006 Posted November 27, 2006 My boyfriend broke up with me about a week ago. I contacted him once over the weekend just to chat, and now he's called me about wanting to get together to study. I did mention a study date first over the phone, but now I'm kind of wondering if it's such a good idea. We'll both be stressed, and it will be a very constricted environment in which we can't have that much fun or talk. I don't want our first post-breakup date to be like that. How do I back out without seeming flaky/ crazy?
bluescreenlife Posted November 27, 2006 Posted November 27, 2006 you could tell him what you just told us about a study date making a crappy date and suggest something else. but most likely this date isn't about studying, it's about you two seeing each other. If you think that's a good idea I'd take the date, let studying be a lower priority to whatever happens between the two of you, and study another time if you need to.
Author insomnie Posted November 27, 2006 Author Posted November 27, 2006 The thing is, I think it MIGHT be just about studying. He sounds pretty stressed with school and I am sure he will want to meet up at his apartment, where it would be easy for him to disappear into his computer. I brought up studying togehter first in a moment of weakness and I think he just doesn't want to back out, but honestly I think we need more time apart and to see each other in a more interactive environment if/when the right time comes. If we do end up getting together to hang out, I want it to be fun. I don't want to talk about the relationship/ what went wrong and it seems that's all a fake study date would be good for. On the other hand, I do want to see him at some point, and I don't want to come off as crazy/flaky.
jerbear Posted November 27, 2006 Posted November 27, 2006 Why not just study at the library... after the subject is done, go back home. It helps keep it studious.
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