MiCorozonPerdidoEnTi Posted November 27, 2006 Posted November 27, 2006 This really isn't how I had envisioned my first post here. But, here it is... I recently discovered that a friend of +3 years has been spying on me. I had a 2 week job in British Columbia this past September. During that time, she hacked into my email account and began communicating with my e-friends. I had an offer of full-time employment from a Kelowna, B.C. dealership. She sent a reply to my prospective employer saying that I was no longer interested. She's been text messaging a friend of mine from the U.S. saying how much we're in love and are getting married... These are all lies. I sent no such email to my possible future boss. I would NEVER disclose a friends email address to anyone without their permission. And I would most certainly never give out my friends cell phone number to anyone, EVER! This woman had been doing nothing but spreading lies and irritating people. She's misused my trust and friendship for her own personal entertainment. She may had caused irreversible damage between my friend from the U.S and I. Okay, this friend from the U.S. is also the love of my life. I'm wondering what steps I shoud take to keep this woman from stalking and harassing us? I have considered a strongly worded letter sent to her via registared mail threatening legal action. If that fails, would a restraining order be the next step? Funny huh? A guy getting a restraining order against a woman? I never thought I'd see that happen. Is she really obsessed or just evil? Some advise would be greatly appreciated. James
D-Lish Posted November 27, 2006 Posted November 27, 2006 This really isn't how I had envisioned my first post here. But, here it is... I recently discovered that a friend of +3 years has been spying on me. I had a 2 week job in British Columbia this past September. During that time, she hacked into my email account and began communicating with my e-friends. I had an offer of full-time employment from a Kelowna, B.C. dealership. She sent a reply to my prospective employer saying that I was no longer interested. She's been text messaging a friend of mine from the U.S. saying how much we're in love and are getting married... These are all lies. I sent no such email to my possible future boss. I would NEVER disclose a friends email address to anyone without their permission. And I would most certainly never give out my friends cell phone number to anyone, EVER! This woman had been doing nothing but spreading lies and irritating people. She's misused my trust and friendship for her own personal entertainment. She may had caused irreversible damage between my friend from the U.S and I. Okay, this friend from the U.S. is also the love of my life. I'm wondering what steps I shoud take to keep this woman from stalking and harassing us? I have considered a strongly worded letter sent to her via registared mail threatening legal action. If that fails, would a restraining order be the next step? Funny huh? A guy getting a restraining order against a woman? I never thought I'd see that happen. Is she really obsessed or just evil? Some advise would be greatly appreciated. James She's obviously messed up in the head, so be careful. If the initial letter doesn't work, and you still find yourself being harrassed, seek a restraining order. Yes, you're being stalked... D
Author MiCorozonPerdidoEnTi Posted November 27, 2006 Author Posted November 27, 2006 Thanks, D-Lish. That's kind of what I was thinking too. It's pretty sad and sick, but I suppose that's the way some people are. Thanks again. James. P.S.: That's a very cute picture you're using for your Avatar. Is that you?
D-Lish Posted November 27, 2006 Posted November 27, 2006 Thanks, D-Lish. That's kind of what I was thinking too. It's pretty sad and sick, but I suppose that's the way some people are. Thanks again. James. P.S.: That's a very cute picture you're using for your Avatar. Is that you? Yep, that's me... Thanks:p Just tread lightly with someone like that- if she's a bit off (insert "crazy") then you never know how easily she can get stirred up. Sounds like somebody needs medication and a good therapist... D
magichands Posted November 27, 2006 Posted November 27, 2006 Sounds like somebody needs medication and a good therapist Undoubtedly. But had you no idea of what she is capable of?! There must be a lot more to this story - surely. (I have a strange affinity with nutcases.) PS: And stop flirting with D-Lish. Is that what got you into this trouble in the first place??
Author MiCorozonPerdidoEnTi Posted November 29, 2006 Author Posted November 29, 2006 Just an honest compliment to a beautiful lady. No bull snaut. As for the ex, well... she is a bit of a loose cannon. I would never even consider using physical means to get her to stop. Anyone who does that will have to answer to me! FYI: 6'2", 32 year old cattle rancher, Canadian Forces reserve infantry soldier and lacrosse player. Don't funk with me! You make a woman cry and I'll make you cry! My ex-friend was not my girlfriend. Nothing romantic. No hugs or kisses. No rings, holding hands... Just a friend. But now it's clear she has a serious mental health issue. Whatever lead her to do this is something only she can understand. Not much of a problem anymore. I sent her a registered letter today warning her of the legal consiquences of her actions if she does not cease all communications between my current love interest and myself. If it goes on, the next step is a restraining order. After that, five years in prison for an order violation. No worries here. I've got it under control. Cheers! Jim P.S.: I do know she is seeing a therapist. They'll have lots to talk about this week!
Author MiCorozonPerdidoEnTi Posted November 30, 2006 Author Posted November 30, 2006 A little update for ya! The letter was received today. I wish I was there to see her face when she opened it. Now That would have been a Kodak moment! Lots of lies in her text messages before she got the mail. A total of 52 attempts to call me (missed calls). She was even calling my workplace. Of course, they were all informed of the situation before hand. Since around noon today, I have received 0 (zero) calls from her. I'm hoping the letter worked. My friend in Wyoming had a similar experience with her ex-fiancé too. Stalkers are creepy. We've got matters well in hand here now. Thanks again to everyone for your support, advice and kindness. Thanks a lot to D-Lish. You're a real cutie;) !!! Cheers! Jim
Author MiCorozonPerdidoEnTi Posted December 8, 2006 Author Posted December 8, 2006 It's been officially over one week now with absolutely no contact from her. Freedom from harassment... what a wonderful feeling! Who knew??? She actually has an active brain cell in that echo chamber for a head. Thanks again to everyone here for your support and inupt. Cheers! Her therapist has to be changing her triple time now! :lmao:
D-Lish Posted December 8, 2006 Posted December 8, 2006 Hopefully her silence doesn't mean she is plotting a dastardly revenge plot involving your bank accounts and credit cards. I hope you've changed all your passwords and contact info! D
Author MiCorozonPerdidoEnTi Posted December 8, 2006 Author Posted December 8, 2006 Hopefully her silence doesn't mean she is plotting a dastardly revenge plot involving your bank accounts and credit cards. I hope you've changed all your passwords and contact info! D All the usual precautions have been taken. I even changed my bank card PIN. I reprogramed the remote keyless entry on my car eight times. Eight is the magic number for Chrysler. That will erase all previous remotes from the vehicle. Seven days, and all's well! I did warn her. Nazareth - Hair of the Dog (circa 1974)... "Now you're messin' with a... a son of a gun. Now you're messin' with a son of a b!tch"
Author MiCorozonPerdidoEnTi Posted December 27, 2006 Author Posted December 27, 2006 She broke the no contact over Christmas. I don't know why, nor do I really care at this point. I'm going legal. This is now a matter for the courts. When are people going to learn? Cheers! Jim
Guest Posted December 27, 2006 Posted December 27, 2006 my 2 cents the way i see something like this is: if my exgf borrowed money from me that means we discussed it and agreed on the amount and repayment if she took it, that is stealing and is criminal and not necessary when she knows she just had to ask - if it was for education or children - and her punishment would be repayment and admitting that to me and someone she admires if it was used in a way that was associated with a new guy - unacceptable would i press charges? what's the point - if she admitted everything she did and cleaned up the mess - no harm done i know - i'm weird look at it this way, i spent 10k during my addiction - that's RESP and eduaction cash she could have used anyone think i am nuts?
Author MiCorozonPerdidoEnTi Posted December 28, 2006 Author Posted December 28, 2006 A little nuts, no. You just have your own special way of doing things. To each their own. On the subject of the 'her', we were contacted by a close friend of mine. It's his birthday today and there's going to be a party for him this Saturday. His girlfriend called me and asked if I was interested in attending. Oh, hell yeah! Just try and stop me! (Did I mention free beer?) Anyways, my buddy's girlfriend stated that she'd already extended an invite to my 'ex'. She wanted to know if I was okay with that or would it pose a problem at the party. I told her the truth. For my best bud, I think we're able to set aside our differences and behave like mature adults for this important day. As a result of that conversation, my 'ex' text messaged me and just said, "Thanks for the understanding". We did end up chatting for a few minutes and everything's good to this point. We will not be discussing what happened between us and the details of my research into her 'activities'. For these few hours this Saturday, we'll act like all is nice in the world for our friend on his special day. The text message yesterday was an accident. She was trying to text a friend, Amanda. She accidently hit my number. In her phone my name is, and I ain't kidding, "@ssh0le". It comes right after Amanda's name. No harm, no foul. An honest mistake, easily forgiven. I'll keep you up-to-date on any further developments. Cheers! Jim (aka: @ssh0le )
Guest Posted December 30, 2006 Posted December 30, 2006 Um ok im lost here so is he now alright with being around the nutter hes been talking about here?? Or did I miss something in translation. Eather way just be carefull she sounds like a unbalanced lady for sure. And also if you ever did feel the need to go ahead with the legal things you were talking about. I'de steer way clear of her if any court found out you were ok to be around her even if for that day.And you were even freely talkeing to her witch im sure she would gleefully bring up in court.You might have a hard time getting any charges to stick just something to think about.
Author MiCorozonPerdidoEnTi Posted January 3, 2007 Author Posted January 3, 2007 All's well. We attended our friend's birthday party and acted like proper, mature adults. We demonstrated respect and self control the entire evening. We even shared a few jokes. I did feel a little strained by this experience. By the end of the evening, we were all getting a little tired and things were starting to slow down. I thanked my friends for a pleasent evening and wished my bud the best for his birthday, as he was passed out on the living room floor. I tipped my hat and was off for the night. Nothing heard from "her" since. I have been asking around to everyone on my contacts list to see if they've been contacted by her recently. I'm kind of surprised to say that "she's" been using restraint and self-control through all of this. Did we break the no contact rule? Yes. Was it for a good cause? Yes. Would I consider our friendship on the mend? Fu(k no! She still betrayed me and that will never change. No contact is back in full force. Thanks again folks! Cheers! Jim P.S.: Happy New Years!
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