mkalynn Posted November 26, 2006 Posted November 26, 2006 soooooo here goes... my boy cheated on my after we had a baby. normally i would have ended it then, but i was insecure. "supposedly" we worked it out, but i can't forget. it hurts. i still think about it. i dream about... sometimes i trust him. most times i don't. my family hates him so i gave them up. *side note* my family hates me too so it wasn't all that much of a crazy move. anyways, i feel like i have given up so much to be with him and we have a child so i want to make it work. i'm scared though. he is not the sweetest most affectionate person so i don't know if he really wants me or if he feels obligated. i told him that i gave up on us. i told him that i am gonna wait on God. whatever is meant to be will be... yadda yadda, but i don't know. i'm scared. <------ can't stress that enough!!! kinda feel like if i'm not with him then i will be alone forever. sometimes i think i know we should stay together, but sometimes i think we shouldn't. if there is no trust on my part then we shouldn't be together. right? and if there is no respect on his part then we shouldn't be together. right? i'm scared and confused. i don't want to be alone and miserable, but is it better to be committed and miserable. help...
alphamale Posted November 26, 2006 Posted November 26, 2006 i'm scared and confused. i don't want to be alone and miserable, but is it better to be committed and miserable. help... well you have a child together so you should maintain some type of relationship....and anyways, most women eventually forgive their men who cheat.
Pyro Posted November 27, 2006 Posted November 27, 2006 soooooo here goes... my boy cheated on my after we had a baby. normally i would have ended it then, but i was insecure. "supposedly" we worked it out, but i can't forget. it hurts. i still think about it. i dream about... sometimes i trust him. most times i don't. my family hates him so i gave them up. *side note* my family hates me too so it wasn't all that much of a crazy move. anyways, i feel like i have given up so much to be with him and we have a child so i want to make it work. i'm scared though. he is not the sweetest most affectionate person so i don't know if he really wants me or if he feels obligated. i told him that i gave up on us. i told him that i am gonna wait on God. whatever is meant to be will be... yadda yadda, but i don't know. i'm scared. <------ can't stress that enough!!! kinda feel like if i'm not with him then i will be alone forever. sometimes i think i know we should stay together, but sometimes i think we shouldn't. if there is no trust on my part then we shouldn't be together. right? and if there is no respect on his part then we shouldn't be together. right? i'm scared and confused. i don't want to be alone and miserable, but is it better to be committed and miserable. help... If you really want to work things out with him, then more power to you, but you will have to make some attempt to learn to trust him again, and he is going to have to be patient with you as well during that process, again only if the two of you want to work it out. Hell no it is not better to be committed and miserable. Anyone who tells you it is is FOS.
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