Pyro Posted November 29, 2006 Posted November 29, 2006 what are you talking RIDDLER....women with "straight head" are the easiest ones to lure in. Its the nice girls that fall for this the easiest. God if I had a dime for every attractive and professional women who was with a jerk. Women love masculinity in both its positive and negative forms. I don't think so. Most of the women that I have seen with a jerk of a guy are suffering from some form of self-esteem or self-worth issues. Again, there are guys out there who are masculine men, but they don't treat their SO like garbage. There is a fine line between the two.
alphamale Posted November 29, 2006 Posted November 29, 2006 I don't think so. Most of the women that I have seen with a jerk of a guy are suffering from some form of self-esteem or self-worth issues. most women have some self esteem issues, its just the degree Again, there are guys out there who are masculine men, but they don't treat their SO like garbage. There is a fine line between the two. oh i think i said just treat them like garbage sometimes...not all the time.
Pyro Posted November 29, 2006 Posted November 29, 2006 most women have some self esteem issues, its just the degree oh i think i said just treat them like garbage sometimes...not all the time. I think that most of us suffer from some sort of self-esteem/insecurity issue, but the one's who know better than to put up with a jerks abuse will not put up with it. What that percentage is, I don't know. No. You shouldn't treat your SO like garbage ever. Anyone who believes that probably doesn't have a healthy relationship or has no relationship.
allina Posted November 29, 2006 Posted November 29, 2006 yes...it works quite well. The women usually keep coming back for more and then eventually I have to cut them loose. And plus, I enjoy messing with their heads. Oh Alpha Trust me, I would drop a guy like that with such a quickness
Pyro Posted November 29, 2006 Posted November 29, 2006 Oh Alpha Trust me, I would drop a guy like that with such a quickness Then you are not his type. You have self-esteem.
alphamale Posted November 29, 2006 Posted November 29, 2006 Oh Alpha Trust me, I would drop a guy like that with such a quickness ha ha ha....sister you wouldn't even get me in the first place
My Fair Katie Posted November 29, 2006 Posted November 29, 2006 Agreed MFK...women generally respond much better to male unpredictability and apathy than anything else. Its ok to give attention but then the man should take away the attention for a while. Treat her like a queen sometimes and then other times treat her like krap. Women eat this stuff up, they love the drama and excitement of it all. Boggles the mind. No idea what precisely you're agreeing with, but being withholding and generall @$$holery are hardly the opposite of "clingy with few interests outside of his girlfriend." Personally, I'd serve up a guy's nuts on a platter if he insisted on treating me like krap! Of course, everything looks nicer when served on a platter.
allina Posted November 29, 2006 Posted November 29, 2006 ha ha ha....sister you wouldn't even get me in the first place Well, I wouldn't try, I'm not interested in men old enough to be my father
alphamale Posted November 29, 2006 Posted November 29, 2006 Personally, I'd serve up a guy's nuts on a platter if he insisted on treating me like krap! No you wouldn't MFK...you'd love it. Then you'd try to change him.
My Fair Katie Posted November 29, 2006 Posted November 29, 2006 No you wouldn't MFK...you'd love it. Then you'd try to change him. What can I say. You hurt me so good baby.
Author luvtoto Posted November 30, 2006 Author Posted November 30, 2006 Boggles the mind. No idea what precisely you're agreeing with, but being withholding and generall @$$holery are hardly the opposite of "clingy with few interests outside of his girlfriend." I agree, MFK. @$$holery..good word. At this point, he has not replied to my email. *shrugs shoulders* Oh well. I am enjoying the space, other than the fact that I have the flu today. Not pretty.
jerbear Posted November 30, 2006 Posted November 30, 2006 I agree, MFK. @$$holery..good word. At this point, he has not replied to my email. *shrugs shoulders* Oh well. I am enjoying the space, other than the fact that I have the flu today. Not pretty. He is working on a response, not something he was expecting to get overnight. (or lack of a response due to shock)
Author luvtoto Posted December 3, 2006 Author Posted December 3, 2006 He just emailed me. He wrote, "Have you given up on me?" He's playing the guilt card. GUILT, GUILT, GUILT, GUILT, GUILT, GUILT, GUILT, GUILT, GUILT, GUILT, GUILT, GUILT,GUILT, GUILT, GUILT, GUILT,GUILT, GUILT, GUILT, GUILT,GUILT, GUILT, GUILT, GUILT,GUILT, GUILT, GUILT, GUILT,GUILT, GUILT, GUILT, GUILT! Why can't he just be a man and stick up for himself. I just called him a controlling whatever, in a rude email. That is all he has to say? Oh, geezus. Any normal man would get pissed off and say screw you! But,...Noooooo. He has to remain Mr. NG! What the hell am I gonna say to him now without coming off as an *******?
norajane Posted December 3, 2006 Posted December 3, 2006 What the hell am I gonna say to him now without coming off as an *******? Answer his question honestly. "Yes, I'm afraid I have given up on our relationship. I've given this a lot of thought, and it just doesn't feel right to me. I wish we were a better match for each other, but I believe we're not. Thank you for being so kind to me and my family. I wish you all the best." It might sting a little, but it's better than giving him any reason to hold out hope. You might want to call him and tell him so. An email is easier on you, but may be harder on him.
Author luvtoto Posted December 6, 2006 Author Posted December 6, 2006 It's officially over. We talked on the phone tonight. I was being vague at first. He was being really nice. He asked me what was up. If we were still going out. I explained to him reasons for us breaking up, but he would just give me rebuttals. He acted like we were this blissfully happy couple that were living in bliss-ville the whole time we were dating. Uh, did I miss that?? Where was I?? He's not that perceptive, let's just say that. Anyway, I was honest with my reasons, the lack of passion....me not wanting the pressure to bring him out of his funk, him making me his everything. So, then he just blew up. Let's just say that my ass was grass and he had a lawn mower. Wooo! All I can say is 'I AM SORRY!!' I never promised him anything. I was honest the whole dang time. We were just going along for the ride (as he put it many times). When did things get so serious between us? When? Where was I? Was I even in this relationship with him? How could he have so many feelings for me...yet, I don't have them for him? Maybe he was having an imaginary relationship and I was just a warm body. It didn't work out. Sooooorry!! I am not a bitch.
che_jesse Posted December 6, 2006 Posted December 6, 2006 Why don't you just enjoy being with someone that likes to be with you instead of nitpicking everything he does. It really sounds like your just trying to find something wrong with him. Dont you have a condition in your head that makes you do that? Tell him about that and thats why you need him to stop being nice to you, I'm sure hell listen, I'm sure he will quickly pack up and move out as well. Just enjoy it, it will stop eventually on its own.
Art_Critic Posted December 6, 2006 Posted December 6, 2006 Maybe he was having an imaginary relationship and I was just a warm body. It didn't work out. Sooooorry!! I am not a bitch. Sorry Luvtoto.... He did make it more of a relationship than you did so it was somewhat imaginary to you once you found out.. and NO you are not a biotch... NEXT !!!!!
Author luvtoto Posted December 6, 2006 Author Posted December 6, 2006 and NO you are not a biotch... NEXT !!!!! Thanks, A_C, for your support. You are right, I am NOT a biscuit!! (something my daughter says)
alphamale Posted December 6, 2006 Posted December 6, 2006 It's officially over. . phew! thank god we can put this one behind us
Pyro Posted December 6, 2006 Posted December 6, 2006 It's officially over. We talked on the phone tonight. I was being vague at first. He was being really nice. He asked me what was up. If we were still going out. I explained to him reasons for us breaking up, but he would just give me rebuttals. He acted like we were this blissfully happy couple that were living in bliss-ville the whole time we were dating. Uh, did I miss that?? Where was I?? He's not that perceptive, let's just say that. Anyway, I was honest with my reasons, the lack of passion....me not wanting the pressure to bring him out of his funk, him making me his everything. So, then he just blew up. Let's just say that my ass was grass and he had a lawn mower. Wooo! All I can say is 'I AM SORRY!!' I never promised him anything. I was honest the whole dang time. We were just going along for the ride (as he put it many times). When did things get so serious between us? When? Where was I? Was I even in this relationship with him? How could he have so many feelings for me...yet, I don't have them for him? Maybe he was having an imaginary relationship and I was just a warm body. It didn't work out. Sooooorry!! I am not a bitch. I'm sorry things didn't work out for the best Luv. You obviously weren't happy and you had to do what was best for you. All that is left for you to do is move forward. Good luck with the next guy.
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