Too much attention.

[Art_Critic]

You just need to know the point when too much is too much or when the effort is not enough. Unfortunately, this can be difficult for many people.

 

True...

 

I have found that women love romance and flowers and romantic gifts... it is all part of courting someone..

 

But when the feelings are one sided then the flowers and romantic gifts or dates can come off as clingy or trying to buy someones attention..

 

The nice romantic jestures have to be wanted in order to work

[Art_Critic]

well A_c....the fact that she's posting this makes it painfully obvious.

 

 

I know..........

[Pyro]

True...

 

I have found that women love romance and flowers and romantic gifts... it is all part of courting someone..

 

But when the feelings are one sided then the flowers and romantic gifts or dates can come off as clingy or trying to buy someones attention..

 

The nice romantic jestures have to be wanted in order to work

 

True to that. Women especially love it when they aren't expecting any gifts from you. You earn those extra brownie points.

[alphamale]

. You earn those extra brownie points.

don't you mean brown-nose points?

[Pyro]

don't you mean brown-nose points?

 

Believe it or not, but some of us like to give gifts to our SO's just to show how much we appreciate them. I don't have any reasons to brown-nose to my girl.

[jerbear]

True to that. Women especially love it when they aren't expecting any gifts from you. You earn those extra brownie points.

 

Earn extra points to the dumpster...

 

It just seems she is just not really into her, he needs a life without her and she is just bored of him to some extent. That he revolves his week around meeting up during the weekend.

 

He would need a hobby or do something else to spice it up.

[allina]

 

But when the feelings are one sided then the flowers and romantic gifts or dates can come off as clingy or trying to buy someones attention..

 

The nice romantic jestures have to be wanted in order to work

 

So true. It's funny, when you're crazy about someone even stupid little things about them are adorable, even the little annoying habits. But when you're just not in to a person, everything about them, no matter how sweet or well intended seems off and annoying.

[johan]

So true. It's funny, when you're crazy about someone even stupid little things about them are adorable, even the little annoying habits. But when you're just not in to a person, everything about them, no matter how sweet or well intended seems off and annoying.

 

Been there. I know that feeling. Strangely enough, as long as we've been seeing each other here on the forums, allina, I've never felt annoyed by you at all. Quite the opposite, in fact. I'm beginning to really think we could go the distance. Knock on wood, of course.

[IpAncA]

Ok I had to share this with you.

 

I was out driving around today and I was behind this truck that didn't know where it was going. Well as I was going down the road they keep kissing each other and she was sitting next to him in the middle. I know she must have been doing something else because he wasn't driving fast enough and went off the road a couple of times lol!!! I was like "get a room."

 

Then they passed their turn to they had to turn around. I didn't think he was gonna make it turning around lol!! I don't know why but I thought of this thread when I seen that. That must have been a new relationship thing.

 

Anyhow carry on....

[alphamale]

I'm beginning to really think we could go the distance.

what's the mileage between San Fran and "What" ??

[allina]

Been there. I know that feeling. Strangely enough, as long as we've been seeing each other here on the forums, allina, I've never felt annoyed by you at all. Quite the opposite, in fact. I'm beginning to really think we could go the distance. Knock on wood, of course.

 

What a sweetheart

I wonder which LSers hate me

[Pyro]

What a sweetheart

I wonder which LSers hate me

 

I wonder the same thing.

[jerbear]

What a sweetheart

I wonder which LSers hate me

 

Honestly not me, how can one dislike a San Fransican flower girl? who is getting "Too much attention"

 

sorry Luvtoto... had too

[luvtoto]

Well, thanks for all your advice..and Johan and Allina.. good luck on your possible hookup!

 

Honestly, I don't think my *ideal* man is out there. I am just tired of waiting. It's been four years. Well, almost five now.

 

It's so nice to have him around. Not just any guy. He knows so much about so many things. Being a single mother with two kids and no family, it's a good thing. Takes alot of stress off of my shoulders.

 

He fixes my car, he supports me with my daughter and her problems, he does *guy* stuff with my son. My kids just love him. He'll do anything for me.

 

This weekend, he got my son out of the house (away from his playstation), and they fixed the chimni outside. It was so cute how they were working together.

 

If I broke up with him, my kids would lose respect for me, and be hurt.

 

I'd be crazy to let him go. Stupid! Stupid! Stupid!

 

But, I am sorry...the passion is not there. But, how important is passion in a relationship?

[Art_Critic]

But, I am sorry...the passion is not there. But, how important is passion in a relationship?

 

I am only speaking for myself.. but I could never have a relationship without the passion.. I take that back.. I did have 1 relationship without passion.. I divorced her...unfortunatly this is almost always the case

 

Staying together for your kids is not a really good idea.. in the end he will figure it all out and feel used...

 

Although there is nothing wrong with sticking this out for more time.... give it another few weeks.. or a month before you decide

[Art_Critic]

I'd be crazy to let him go. Stupid! Stupid! Stupid!

 

 

Why do you feel this way ??? No guy is so good that you should feel stupid for not being right together

[luvtoto]

I am only speaking for myself.. but I could never have a relationship without the passion.. I take that back.. I did have 1 relationship without passion.. I divorced her...unfortunatly this is almost always the case

 

Staying together for your kids is not a really good idea.. in the end he will figure it all out and feel used...

 

Although there is nothing wrong with sticking this out for more time.... give it another few weeks.. or a month before you decide

Thanks, A_C. My feelings are, once again, jumbled up beyond belief.

 

I just don't want to go back to the way it was. Me lonely. He has brought alot of my life. I feel safe now.

 

I could learn to love him....

[jerbear]

Well, thanks for all your advice..and Johan and Allina.. good luck on your possible hookup!

 

Honestly, I don't think my *ideal* man is out there. I am just tired of waiting. It's been four years. Well, almost five now.

 

It's so nice to have him around. Not just any guy. He knows so much about so many things. Being a single mother with two kids and no family, it's a good thing. Takes alot of stress off of my shoulders.

 

He fixes my car, he supports me with my daughter and her problems, he does *guy* stuff with my son. My kids just love him. He'll do anything for me.

 

This weekend, he got my son out of the house (away from his playstation), and they fixed the chimni outside. It was so cute how they were working together.

 

If I broke up with him, my kids would lose respect for me, and be hurt.

 

I'd be crazy to let him go. Stupid! Stupid! Stupid!

 

But, I am sorry...the passion is not there. But, how important is passion in a relationship?

 

Since the chimeny is fixed, light a fire in his fireplace. Passion is required at some point, even the passion needs some simmerring. For some the fire is a slow burn with an occansional flame up! To each their own.

 

The kids wouldn't lose respect but would be really down for a long time.

[Art_Critic]

I just don't want to go back to the way it was. Me lonely. He has brought alot of my life. I feel safe now.

 

I know how you feel.. a while back ago I dated someone who I dated because she felt good to be around.. even being around her kids felt good.. but I broke it off because we had no future together and me continuing would've been using her...

even though going out with her was a good time killer and I didn't feel lonely it still wasn't right once I knew that we had no future together..

 

But after I broke it off I did meet someone that felt good and looks good for a future together.... I'm happier than I can ever remember being and she is no doubt the only girl to truly have my attention since my divorce if not forever.

 

Give it more time luvtoto..he may come around..

[alphamale]

I could learn to love him....

Is that him in your avvie, with the sunglasses? He looks like a big oaf

[johan]

I could learn to love him....

 

If you were still planning to show him LS, I'd definitely recommend against it at this point.

[luvtoto]

I know how you feel.. a while back ago I dated someone who I dated because she felt good to be around.. even being around her kids felt good.. but I broke it off because we had no future together and me continuing would've been using her...

even though going out with her was a good time killer and I didn't feel lonely it still wasn't right once I knew that we had no future together..

 

But after I broke it off I did meet someone that felt good and looks good for a future together.... I'm happier than I can ever remember being and she is no doubt the only girl to truly have my attention since my divorce if not forever.

I bet you are glad you didn't settle, huh A_C. I am very glad that things are going really good for you. I really am.

 

When you broke it off with the "felt good to be around" women...was she crushed?

[luvtoto]

If you were still planning to show him LS, I'd definitely recommend against it at this point.

Yea, I already decided not to tell him about you guys. I am keeping you to myself, Johan.

[alphamale]

When you broke it off with the "felt good to be around" women...was she crushed?

probably....she was looking for a meal ticket for herself and her kid(s). And we all know that A_c is loaded...

[Art_Critic]

When you broke it off with the "felt good to be around" women...was she crushed?

 

Yes she was... I felt like a turd.. but it was the best thing for both of us.. and I'm sure she moved on...she was a very successful , nice, pretty woman that I'm sure wouldn't be single long..