laniwill65 Posted November 26, 2006 Posted November 26, 2006 There is this man on my job that swears within a year we'll be married. He's a nice man but I don't feel anything for him but friendship. He recently took my phone number so he can call me for a date to the movies. I don't know. Considering how I feel, should I go out with him anyway? What are your thoughts? Thanks in advance.
Road Rage Posted November 26, 2006 Posted November 26, 2006 Well, if you don`t feel anything for him the answer is no. you can`t sqeeze blood out of a turnip. Don`t put him through the illusion of thinking he is getting somewhere with you. Next question:rolleyes:
melodymatters Posted November 26, 2006 Posted November 26, 2006 well, if he isn't disgusting to you, why not go out on a date ? Just be honest with him that your not sure if you are interested in a romantic way or a friends way so he doesn't get hurt and you don't end up feeling badly. If you KNOW that there is not a snowballs chance in hell, then use the work excuse as a reason to not accept the date
Author laniwill65 Posted November 27, 2006 Author Posted November 27, 2006 Thank you both RoadRage and MelodyMatters for your input. I will take each into consideration. I think, though, that I'm leaning more toward not going out with him cause he seems to be the type of person that will keep pressing the issue until I weaken.
jgaz3124 Posted November 27, 2006 Posted November 27, 2006 Thank you both RoadRage and MelodyMatters for your input. I will take each into consideration. I think, though, that I'm leaning more toward not going out with him cause he seems to be the type of person that will keep pressing the issue until I weaken. I know that type!!! Best to stay away.
Prise Posted November 28, 2006 Posted November 28, 2006 In my view, a good rule to follow is never date or go out with anyone for whom you don't have at least a moderate level of attraction towards. Start low, and get lower isn't exactly most people's ideal of a whirlwind romance that takes your breath away.
Author laniwill65 Posted November 28, 2006 Author Posted November 28, 2006 You know, Prise, I feel that same way but being that I'm in such a drought (it's been such a long long time that I've been asked) I was starting to wonder if maybe I should just date whoever asks. The last time I asked a guy out he said yes and the next day changed his mind so my dating sense has kind of flipped upside down. Some people find it so easy to get a date and I'm having a tough time. I was starting to think that maybe they just date any ole body just because and maybe it was a normal thing to go out with someone even if you don't find them attractive.
Prise Posted November 28, 2006 Posted November 28, 2006 Some people find it so easy to get a date and I'm having a tough time. I was starting to think that maybe they just date any ole body just because and maybe it was a normal thing to go out with someone even if you don't find them attractive. If one's indiscriminant, finding a date is pretty easy. Ask 10 people, and at least 1 or 2 will say yes. In my view, if the two choices are between not dating, or dating any "ole" person whom we're not attracted to, the former is the far lesser of two evils. Best of luck!
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