OCCDAVE Posted November 26, 2006 Posted November 26, 2006 Well i have been seeing this one girl for a few months now and all has gone well.On Thanksgiving i called her and she was a bit drunk so i knew that was a red flag to get off the phone cause someone always says something dumb when they are drunk.Well she said i have another man then cursed me out which shocked me.I called her the next day and she acted like nothing ever happend which ticked me off cause i didn't even get a sorry or anything.She then ignores me up untill yesterday and she finally called me and said we need to talk.She told me i don't know what i want in life i still have feelings for my ex and he's coming back from the army next month.I said ok if you still have feelings then it's over right she then said i never said that i just don't know what i want.She told me give her time but i'm confused you just told someone you love them the day before then this big change of heart?
whichwayisup Posted November 26, 2006 Posted November 26, 2006 How much do you like her? Is she worth hanging on to? Give her space, keep busy and see what happens. Sadly though, it sounds like she's keeping the door open for the ex to comeback into her life again...Not saying she'll do this, but she may want to date both of you and then see who she wants more. That isn't fair to you, at all, so maybe it would best (for you) to end it and move on.
Author OCCDAVE Posted November 26, 2006 Author Posted November 26, 2006 That's the thing i can honestly say i love this girl more then anything.I wont lie i never had to many real g/fs in my life but this one makes me feel so good when i'm with her.I guess i will give her space but it just hurts me you tell someone you love them then have a change of heart after speaking to your ex.
someone2 Posted November 26, 2006 Posted November 26, 2006 Say bub-bye, then run, don't walk. Not necessarily. She may be indecisive now, but what if this experience made her grow up? What if she really loves him without realizing it? What if he really loves her? We are not machines We are humans. I say he should give this a chance. If it gets out of control, he can walk away at the right moment
gfto Posted November 28, 2006 Posted November 28, 2006 What if she really loves him without realizing it? You know, I think you're right. She told him that she doesn't know what she wants in life, and that she still has feelings for her ex. I think she's actually madly in love with him, but she just doesn't realize it.
Guest Posted January 2, 2007 Posted January 2, 2007 Well i have been seeing this one girl for a few months now and all has gone well.On Thanksgiving i called her and she was a bit drunk so i knew that was a red flag to get off the phone cause someone always says something dumb when they are drunk.Well she said i have another man then cursed me out which shocked me.I called her the next day and she acted like nothing ever happend which ticked me off cause i didn't even get a sorry or anything.She then ignores me up untill yesterday and she finally called me and said we need to talk.She told me i don't know what i want in life i still have feelings for my ex and he's coming back from the army next month.I said ok if you still have feelings then it's over right she then said i never said that i just don't know what i want.She told me give her time but i'm confused you just told someone you love them the day before then this big change of heart? The best thing to do is to walk away and don't look back, disappear. If she does call you back you should ignore her calls (or emails) or tell her that your planning to meet someone (preferably a woman) and you can't talk to her for long, then hang up. She's wasting your time, so go out there and find someone who won't. Just move on man.
Walk Posted January 2, 2007 Posted January 2, 2007 This won't go well. I suggest a clean break right now. Seriously, she still has feeling for the ex. He's coming home soon. The ex is probably going to take advantage of her wanting to try getting back together again. The ex is probably going to be looking for 'companionship' since he's been alone for so long, he won't care who it is, but she's ready and willing so he'll accept it. He'll drop the girl after a while, and she'll come running back to you crying that she made a mistake. She knows when he's coming home, which means she's been in contact with him. She obviously wasn't upfront about this with you. She told you off while drunk, proclaiming she already had another man. Later tells you she has feelings for the other man. Now is trying to diminish what she said by covering it with a statement that she's "confused". She wasn't confused the the two other times you talked to her. You'll get caught up in a hopeless drama if you leave the door open for her. Tell her it's over. For her to try to patch things up with the ex if she wants, but you two are done. 90% chance she'll call you about 4 months down the road begging you to take her back. Proclaiming that you were the best thing to ever happen to her, blah blah....
ls3360 Posted January 2, 2007 Posted January 2, 2007 to get off the phone cause someone always says something dumb when they are drunk.Well she said i have another man then cursed me out which shocked me. It has been my experience that when a gal says something when she's drunk, she does mean it at some level. The comments don't come from nowhere.
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