volleyballchick Posted November 26, 2006 Posted November 26, 2006 my fiance and i have been together for quit awhile...and he still gets pretty jealous at times....like yesterday...i asked him if i could hang out withh my girlfriend today because i havent seen her in awhile...and he was hesitant to say yes...and then it turned into a big problem...i told him that i wouldnt hang out with her today and the only place i'd go is to his work to see him on his lunch break...i love him so much but how can i get him to trust me without being with him 24/7???
BabyPhoenix Posted November 26, 2006 Posted November 26, 2006 ...i asked him if i could hang out withh my girlfriend today because i havent seen her in awhile... Why do you have to ask for his permission in order to hang out with your friends? Are you his slave?
magichands Posted November 26, 2006 Posted November 26, 2006 Are you his slave? Are we talking garden-variety slave, or love slave? Are you telling me that PlayStations aren't the only things that come with controllers?!
Anka Posted November 26, 2006 Posted November 26, 2006 Trust me, you dont want to marry this guy. He will isolate you from your friends(sounds like he already has) and then your family will be next. This behavoir will only get worse, its abusive. Guys that are controlling like this are insecure and untrusting. You cannot form a real intimate connection with one because of that. If he doesnt trust you to hang out with a friend, dont think this will change. I had friend in this sit. it got so bad she wasnt allowed to use the phone without him there to supervise. And you shouldnt have to 'ask' him if you can spend time with your friend. This is the sort of thing you tell him. And dont let him justify this problem. Dont marry him, at least not while is so insecure(he is not ready)
Author volleyballchick Posted November 26, 2006 Author Posted November 26, 2006 i know i shouldnt have to ask for his permission....but i sort of understand why he doesnt trust me...i kinda cheated on him once....but i told him about it and how sorry i was and i try to give him everything he wants....he said he forgave me and everything...but i mean still i think i should be able to hang out with my girlfriends when i want to...right???
LakesideDream Posted November 27, 2006 Posted November 27, 2006 The plot thickens. You "sorta" cheated on him, so he "sorta" doesen't trust you. You may have promised him the sun and the moon.. but you know the old adage, "talk is cheap". Trust takes a long time to re-establish. Sometimes it never happens. You might think about cutting your losses and finding a guy you won't "sorta" cheat on. The prognosis isn't good.
magichands Posted November 27, 2006 Posted November 27, 2006 The plot thickens. It's syrupy. And I like your style.
Schriden Posted November 27, 2006 Posted November 27, 2006 so i did cheat on him but i have tried everything to get him to trust me...i took him out to dinner the other night and i paid...i tell him i love him everyday...even when we fight i still tell him i love him more than anything in the world....he really needs to build trust bc he has no trust in me what so ever...and i beleive that if theres no trust,theres no relationship...so i dont know what to do anymore...i wanna be with him for the rest of my life
Author volleyballchick Posted November 27, 2006 Author Posted November 27, 2006 the last post was from me i forgot to sign out of my b/f's name...lol dumby me
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