How to be friends with your EX

[insomnie]

I think my relationship went downhill because BF and I had not established a solid friendship prior to getting togheter. We loved each other a whole lot, and liked and respected each other as people...but there was no "glue" of common interest to hold us togehter. Except maybe sex.

 

But the thing is, we're very similar in our interests and hobbies. Except somehow the friendship still never developed because any time we got together, it was to put time in to make thigns work, instead of because we watned to be doing something we both enjoyed. Or, at least, it morphed into that. However, we do similar thigns with our friends (different groups of friends) and we'd basically be doing the same thing in our spare time, just alone or with other people.

 

I don't think we should be getting back together anytime soon, but I would like to try to become friends with him. 1. Because I really think that a relationship in this case WOULD work, given a couple of small changes, and 2. becuase I really like him and think he'd be fun to hang out with.

 

But, am I being naive here? I always hear how it's a bad idea to remain in contact with your ex or to try to stay friends with him, etc.

[magichands]

But, am I being naive here? I always hear how it's a bad idea to remain in contact with your ex or to try to stay friends with him, etc.

Could you cope if it never developed again into more than friends? I think that's the question to ask yourself. And be blunt with yourself!

[Trialbyfire]

I've always remained friends with all my exes except for the last one, who I could strangle, lol. If you don't want to be close friends, I can easily understand that but it's worthwhile to be civil, especially if you have friends in common. You can go into NC for awhile until you feel you're ready to reconnect.

[magichands]

I've always remained friends with all my exes except for the last one, who I could strangle, lol.

I could go for a bit of that.