puddleofmud Posted November 26, 2006 Posted November 26, 2006 Crap, crap and more just crap! For one I am so glad to have found this board. This eve as I have been speaking here I have been busy at home with a work project being that I am projecting via spreadsheet hundreds of responses to my bank (we are the national "home" office) Christmas party invites as I must budget via the responses as well as delegate regarding hotel reservations, catering, seating arrangements, etc. You can probably guess where this is leading. The Ex has responded (the responses are recorded via post mark) only four days ago that he will attend with a "guest". I just came upon that and I am just PO'd as it gets. What?!!! How DARE he? Not only that if he should show up I am absolutely certain I won't make it through the event without claws coming out. Who is this "guest"? A date? His wife? No matter I am going to be mortified and humiliated and don't think I could possibly contain myself. I KNOW he will be there due to the fact I have also just taken a look at the agenda for the eve (thought it was nothing I needed to look at until I saw his attendance response) and HE is receiving an accommodation and even worse *I* am to introduce him. I don't want to see him AT ALL much less be forced in a formal situation where I am to make gaa-gaa over his accomplishments. Either he drops dead (via natural causes of course) in three weeks or I am going to have to come down with a dreadful disease in order to avoid this. I am starting to feel like an extra in Brigette Jones' diary. Right now (please entertain my thoughts and indulge me for a moment) all I can think of is walking up to him dressed like a queen and snarl something like "Hello, darling, the children have missed you so...I am so glad you will be seeing them tonight as they have missed their daddy so much". OR "You effing piece of trash--is this your wife?--nice to meet you Mrs. so and so; I was your husband's unknowing mistress for three years--perhaps we should talk". OR Maybe I should hire a gorgeous 20'ish tanned and toned fellow as my date and laugh all night. No matter I am just reeling and hoping my holidays would be better and I have worked so hard on myself. EFFFF! Thanks for the set back you demonic thing!
BUTAFLY Posted November 26, 2006 Posted November 26, 2006 Either he drops dead (via natural causes of course) in three weeks or I am going to have to come down with a dreadful disease in order to avoid this. all I can think of is walking up to him dressed like a queen and snarl something like "Hello, darling, the children have missed you so...I am so glad you will be seeing them tonight as they have missed their daddy so much". OR "You effing piece of trash--is this your wife?--nice to meet you Mrs. so and so; I was your husband's unknowing mistress for three years--perhaps we should talk". OR Maybe I should hire a gorgeous 20'ish tanned and toned fellow as my date and laugh all night. No matter I am just reeling and hoping my holidays would be better and I have worked so hard on myself. EFFFF! Thanks for the set back you demonic thing! I like option #2 myself. would he dare not bring his wife? is he that bold?
noforgiveness Posted November 26, 2006 Posted November 26, 2006 No I like option #3 plus you get the added bonus of a gorgeous man on your arm. Kill him with sweetness and class.
KnowHowLoveFeels Posted November 26, 2006 Posted November 26, 2006 I don't want to see him AT ALL much less be forced in a formal situation where I am to make gaa-gaa over his accomplishments. POM, Hey, I don't know your story. Were you led to believe that he was available when you were dating? If so, he really deserves having a pie thrown in his face at the party, don't you think? Either he drops dead (via natural causes of course) in three weeks or I am going to have to come down with a dreadful disease in order to avoid this. I am starting to feel like an extra in Brigette Jones' diary. Actually, I have a better thought. Since you are to introduce him... use that to your advantage. {{MUAHHHAHA}} "You effing piece of trash--is this your wife?--nice to meet you Mrs. so and so; I was your husband's unknowing mistress for three years--perhaps we should talk". I like the above approach... BUT. A classier approach would have been a smirk, or a "knowing" smile when you see him next to his W. (This will create more drama between the two of them than you can imagine!) To the BS, please don't take offense. I think that if he can cheat on his W and string along another woman, he deserves whatever that is coming his way.
BUTAFLY Posted November 26, 2006 Posted November 26, 2006 I was just thinking how nice its been not having BS respond to resent post. Kindof refeshing just sharing stories and not defending yourself.
Author puddleofmud Posted November 26, 2006 Author Posted November 26, 2006 Hey, I don't know your story. Were you led to believe that he was available when you were dating? You know what? I have decided that I will no longer answer that nor speak of it. We are all here because of one kind of a betrayal of another... So, if my Sisters in Arms would continue to help me investigate strategy about this (even in jest or just for fun or have any SATIRE to offer) I would deeply appreciate it! If you all could be certain through your research that is truly illegal to shoot him then I most likely will not do so. However, if you find a majical spell I could use that would render him a horrid case of crotch rot I may do that!!!
Chapter2 Posted November 26, 2006 Posted November 26, 2006 There are BS's resonding BF... I was just thinking how nice its been not having BS respond to resent post. Kindof refeshing just sharing stories and not defending yourself.
whichwayisup Posted November 26, 2006 Posted November 26, 2006 I like the above approach... BUT. A classier approach would have been a smirk, or a "knowing" smile when you see him next to his W. (This will create more drama between the two of them than you can imagine!) She, his wife, doesn't deserve to be put on the spot and embarressed in a situation like that. That's just cruel. I think that if he can cheat on his W and string along another woman, he deserves whatever that is coming his way. Yes, the MM may deserve what is coming to him, but it's not up to the OW to tell her infront of a crowd, or anywhere else. Soul purpose, you said it, "This will create more drama between the two of them than you can imagine!"
Joelle Posted November 26, 2006 Posted November 26, 2006 POM, Firstly, I truly regret the situation you're in. Also, if I were you, I would consider doing either: 1. Look beautiful. Carry yourself with class & grace. Treat him with class & grace. 2. If you cannot do #1, do not attend the event. Let him wonder about you. Good luck.
pureinheart Posted November 26, 2006 Posted November 26, 2006 Personally Puddle, I wouldn't go....could open the door to much mess both ways...I doubt you would say or do anything to this guy or his wife, you could have already and haven't ....you will be the one hurt in this one...I fear you will go through the rejection all over again...you have had too much rejection already. That guy needs professional help....who in their right mind would do something like this ....this guy is a real work of art. This guy is gonna get his, and a few others...as God is alive and well and real!
KnowHowLoveFeels Posted November 26, 2006 Posted November 26, 2006 She, his wife, doesn't deserve to be put on the spot and embarressed in a situation like that. That's just cruel. No, the idea is for POM to do this subtlely, and the W won't be put on the spot at all. It puts a seed in her head... probably a good thing for her. IMO that's not cruel. But an introduction that is peppered with sarcasm... yeah, that would be cruel! POM should definitely go and show up in her best "act".
pureinheart Posted November 26, 2006 Posted November 26, 2006 ....meant piece of work and not art.....this guy is a real piece of work....is that right....what is that phrase? Oh well maybe that is right, anyway you know what I mean
Dayzie Posted November 26, 2006 Posted November 26, 2006 *giggle* sorry I don't mean to laugh at your situation, and I'm not, just at your different scenarios, and LOVE #2 but #3 would hurt him too!! Good luck, stay strong and know that you are so much better than him!!!
Trialbyfire Posted November 26, 2006 Posted November 26, 2006 Take the buff and beautiful route. Make him drool and sweat. Lying men are such scum.
BenThereDunThat Posted November 26, 2006 Posted November 26, 2006 I agree with everyone on taking the beautiful, classy route. However...should there be a ripple in the carpet on his path to the podium that should cause him to trip and fall on his face....
Author puddleofmud Posted November 26, 2006 Author Posted November 26, 2006 However...should there be a ripple in the carpet on his path to the podium that should cause him to trip and fall on his face.... HA! So funny---if only! Look folks this is indeed a very horrible situation but most of these suggestions are just me being sarcastic (and some folks replying in like manner). No one is serious about hurting anyone much less his wife. Carry on mates!
noforgiveness Posted November 26, 2006 Posted November 26, 2006 HA! So funny---if only! Look folks this is indeed a very horrible situation but most of these suggestions are just me being sarcastic (and some folks replying in like manner). No one is serious about hurting anyone much less his wife. Carry on mates! I realize ou are being humorous but in all sincerity I think you couls be your i'm assuming beautiful classy self and open his wifes eyes just a little so she can investigate and figure out things on her own. She needs to know her husband is a snake.
kymberann Posted November 27, 2006 Posted November 27, 2006 Just be coy but dignified! I'd let on that you know MM more personally than should be allowed in the work place. Some body language, a long drawn out hug or something. Maybe W will get suspiscious and then start questioning MM later on. It may make her feel uncomfortable, but yep, she needs to know! And there is nothing wrong with a voodoo doll or two posed in some odd and embarassing fashion as he walks and then trips on his way to the podium!..... how's that for subtlety.
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