Kelso Posted November 25, 2006 Posted November 25, 2006 Hello everyone - I'm hoping that I can be an inspiration for those of you, who aren't feeling very good now. Well, there are 6 weeks since we broke up. I had been thinking that the relationship wasn't going very well for the 2 weeks before the breakup. Then we broke up mutually, although she initiated it. I felt good, but as the week passed on, I wasn't sure if we were doing the right thing because I realized that I cared a lot more for this girl than I thought. I asked her if she wanted to give us more time, but she refused and said she just wanted to be alone for now. For the first weeks I was devastated. I couldn't concentrate on the Uni - and I couldn't concentrate on my work. I thought about her constantly and checked her MySpace 30 times a day. I kept thinking about her with another guys and I kept thinking about all our good times - and how she was only gonna have good times with other guys than me from now on. Then I came up with a plan to get her back. I was gonna call her in 2 weeks and have a nice chat about everything else than our relationship. I did that and the phonecall went great and we laughed and had a really good chat. You can read all about that in my thread "I'm gonna see if I can get another chance" in the Second Chances forum. It was 3 weeks ago and I haven't heard from her since then. Before I called her and came up with the plan I wanted to call her constantly and I kept talking about her with my friends. As the time went by, I became fed up with all my bull****. Although the girl meant the world to me ... I have realized that she doesn't have feelings for me anymore and my feelings towards her has faded a lot since I called her 3 weeks ago. I have realized that I was missing the most was her physical closeness and I missed doing stuff with her ... although I didn't enjoy our every moment together. Today I have realised that I'm not gonna call this girl ever again. Although I still think about her a lot - I have no desire to call her anymore. I have seen that I need to think of myself and I have been doing that for the past couple of weeks and it is going very well. I'm so reliefed because like a month ago ... I just though "ahhh...my life is over ... there is nothing more to live for". I just wanted to write down my story for those of you who have recently broken up. You can look up my old posts to see how I felt 4-6 weeks ago. I'm telling you the same as so many people in here. In few weeks you will started to think about what all the fuzz was about ... and I promise everyone of you ... that in few weeks time...IT WILL get better. Hang in there ... and start taking care of yourself...
Teacher's Pet Posted November 28, 2006 Posted November 28, 2006 Great post, Kelso. You definately have it figured out. I'm right there with ya, bro. -tp hanging in there!
JCD Posted November 29, 2006 Posted November 29, 2006 I too felt devastated one time but I grew and realized that I need to get on with my life. I started talking to another girl and became friends and now I'm at a point where I'm starting to think about her more and envisioning having a possible future with her. The more I think about her the less I think about the other girl that I was crazy about and who didn't want me. Getting my feelings off my chest by talking to friends also helped a lot. I think there is a stage where you're saying to yourself all the right things but you still yearn for her but the next stage is where you actually act out and change your life for the better. Good luck with yours.
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