freshlillies Posted November 25, 2006 Posted November 25, 2006 I dont want to get into the break up since i made a thread about it already... called " we must all feel the same " i dont want to be delusional that he wants me back but i keep getting emotionaly messed up .. thanksgiving he sent me a " happy thanksgiving " text ... he hates thanksgiving. we talked on aim the next night and he ended the convo with ... " <3 thats for you " and then 4 lines down he drew another " <3 " he also said " hope to speak to you sooner then later " today i checked his myspace and he finaly changed his status to " single " but he still has me on his top 10 . he deleated all the sweet photos of us but he kept one photo up on his profile of us jumping on eachother in a parking lot and me tryin to make him fall. i know he said he wants to be alone, and we have had a good break up... but when he does stuff like this i start to feel like there is hope for us to be together again, and i know in reality there probably isnt a chance. am i crazy here or does he maybe still have feeling for me still and knows we cant be together but cant let go as well, even if he was the one that dumped me? or is he realy just trying to be my friend and he is doing all this stuff on friendly terms?
Kamille Posted November 25, 2006 Posted November 25, 2006 I dont want to get into the break up since i made a thread about it already... called " we must all feel the same " i dont want to be delusional that he wants me back but i keep getting emotionaly messed up .. thanksgiving he sent me a " happy thanksgiving " text ... he hates thanksgiving. we talked on aim the next night and he ended the convo with ... " <3 thats for you " and then 4 lines down he drew another " <3 " he also said " hope to speak to you sooner then later " today i checked his myspace and he finaly changed his status to " single " but he still has me on his top 10 . he deleated all the sweet photos of us but he kept one photo up on his profile of us jumping on eachother in a parking lot and me tryin to make him fall. i know he said he wants to be alone, and we have had a good break up... but when he does stuff like this i start to feel like there is hope for us to be together again, and i know in reality there probably isnt a chance. am i crazy here or does he maybe still have feeling for me still and knows we cant be together but cant let go as well, even if he was the one that dumped me? or is he realy just trying to be my friend and he is doing all this stuff on friendly terms? I read "we must all feel the same" and the conversation you had with justagirl and it nearly made me cry. I feel like I have been there and I can really relate with the way the two of you envision love and relationships. It has been awhile, fortunately for me, since I have gone through a major heartbreak (so what am I doing in the Break up section, I suddenly ask myself?) so I'm not sure I would have anything to add to that conversation. I will actually try to tell you what I think your ex is expressing by his actions : not that he wants a second chance - but that he truly does care for you. That he realizes the impact you have had on his life. It's sometimes hard right after a break up to keep in mind that someone can love us and yet not be able to be with us. Because it hurts. Because we hurt and we wish there was a way to just make everything like it was before. We wish there was a way to stop feeling that pain - and we feel that our ex is the person who could make the pain disappear in instants. This is why this is the moment to do things for ourselves. Also, it's important to realize that they have inflicted that pain and cannot do away with it in a second. Anyways, I have really appreciated reading your messages and you input on this board. I'm so sorry you're going through this. It's really hard. I wish you lots of strenght! K
Author freshlillies Posted November 25, 2006 Author Posted November 25, 2006 thank you! i know its hard, and i understand that no one person should have such a power over you to be able to take your pain away. we should be able to be strong enough on our own and work out our pain. so thats what i am doing now, just taking it day by day and trying to talk to friends and keep in mind that - maybe i couldnt sleep and eat well the last 4 days but it will come back to me in the days to come and not be so hard on myself at the moment. we did have a strong bond, and he has expressed that to me. but i guess some people come into our lives for a moment, a season or a lifetime ... guess he wasnt the one. i think alot of us come on this site looking for some comfort and someone to tell us.. YES HE WANTS YOU ... truth is, no one on here can answer what is between two people unless you are those two people. and as much as it hurts to hear the truth, thats exactly what it is ........ the truth. We learn and we grown and eventualy move on. I may seem level headed about all this, but it takes working at it to get to this point, i just wish some of the people on this site can take the real advice and move on. thank you agian.
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