Author pricillia Posted November 27, 2006 Author Posted November 27, 2006 Hi Guest, Thanks for replying... I understand what you are saying... the first 4 quotes that you quoted do not apply to this situation... I started seeing this man in March anything before that does not apply. The first MM I went into with eyes wide open stupidly though.. I ended it and tried to seek someone out that was not married...being with him is one of my bigest regrets!!! This current person did withhold the truth from me, even before he asked me out I specifically asked him if he was married he said no... I trusted and believed him... according to him his marriage is over, he just has to figure out his next move and I know he is stuggling here, but I am frustrated as well... he stated when I found out that he was married that he lied because he had feelings for me for so long that he did not want that to stop me from seeing him. He was wrong I know...
PoshPrincess Posted November 27, 2006 Posted November 27, 2006 I am sorry you are feeling this way but is it any wonder? In my opinion he knows exactly what he is doing! He is testing you--he calls constantly in order to disrupt your life. He is not checking in to communicate with you--he is checking in to make sure you are alone and as little reminders to keep "him" in your mind. Really, how could you manage a date with him calling you like that? I totally agree with you here Puddle! My now ex-MM has tried calling quite a few times since we split and always on the nights when I COULD be out with someone else (the nights I don't have my son, which he knows), almost like he's checking up on what I might be doing. When we were still occasionally in touch (but no longer together) he phoned the morning I was due to go on holiday, even though he had told me to move on and forget him, like he was trying to f**k with my head by reminding me that he was still around. I had a mutual male friend take me for dinner for Valentines, knowing MM wouldn't be taking me anywhere, and MM phoned about three times that night before I went out. The constant game playing and head f**king was totally tiring. I don't think it was intentional; the whole thing was messing with his head too. This is what these sitchs do to ALL of us! Pricillia, I wish you all the best. The fact that your MM lied to you in the first place about being married should make you a whole lot more wary of him. Maybe you want to ask yourself if you could live with this if you were permantly attached to him? Seems like someone who perceives love as ownership...not someone who is sweetly chasing the love of his life. And if he left his wife I would wonder if he wouldn't do the same thing to her once she began dating? He has no right to be jealous but, of course he is! At the end of the day he knows you can walk away, you can do whatever you want and see whoever you choose to, and he has no rights over you whatsoever! This doesn't make it right of course. As someone else posted, he should keep his insecurities to himself. He's got two choices - to leave or to stay - and you deserve much better than to be his 'bit on the side' at his beckon call whenever he wants you! Perhaps you should give him something to be jealous about Just a thought! My ex-MM was jealous as hell. Would he have still been like that were we together exclusively? Who knows? As for snooping: been there done that and did so because I was forced to find information. However, if it becomes obsessive then it won't help you but will keep you emotionally connected. Hang in there and I am keeping you in my thoughts! I drove past my ex-MMs house a couple of times. Not sure why. It made me feel like a stalker though and I realised I was really starting to hit rock bottom. Don't know what I thought I would find anyway. He's done the same to me a fair few times which shows how totally f**ked up the whole thing was! I was even tempted to turn up at the airport when he got back from a family hol just to see how they were with each other. I never would have done but felt pretty pathetic even considering it! Mental. I just thank God I'm out of it and one day Pricillia you will do the same, I'm sure.
Guest Posted November 28, 2006 Posted November 28, 2006 I understand what you are saying... the first 4 quotes that you quoted do not apply to this situation... I started seeing this man in March anything before that does not apply. Thank you for clearing that up. I still hold a very low opinion of the current guy. He lied to you from the start and expects you hold him in some sort of high regard? You are expected to say, "How high?" when he tell you to jump? OMG ... the absurdity is just unreal! Also, remember what your Father told you in that dream. It was spot on!
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